I need to go barefoot!

I need some ideas. I'm currently at my mates house for the week and tonight we are having a get together with some mates. I've never gone barefoot in someone elses house, I know that my mates goes barefoot sometimes, but I don't know what he would think of me going barefoot in his house, and we also have another guy over. What could I do? I don't want to just take them off, because I think they would think of me as weird, we're all on out own computers on the living room table, I want to go barefoot but I need some ideas how to go about doing it safely... If you understand. Help!!!

 

I hear you, I would'nt feel comfortable barefoot at someone eles house unless they either get barefoot themselves or invite me to take them off.

Hopefully, one of your mates will decide to get barefoot, if that happens, then by all means, sieze the moment and get out of those shoes and socks!

 

He is barefoot, should I ask if I could take off socks

 

go ahead, take 'em off

 

wear sandals, no socks then slip the sandals off

 

Why did I never think of that? That is fantastic! THANK YOU!!!

 

Yeah! Sandals, and especially flops, have solved many in between issues for me.

 

you are very welcome. glad to be of help

peace,
bob

 

And just relax - if they are your friends, they should be accepting of you regardless of your choice of footwear. It'll probably be easier now that we're heading into summer and it's perfectly acceptable to take off shoes to stay cool.

 

I honestly don't see the problem.

I always take my shoes off when I get to someone's house, whoever it is...

Hell... I grew up thinking that people are supposed to take their shoes off when they get into a house.

 

so, have you done it yet ? if so, what was the reaction ?

 

This is a late response, but I asked him if he wouldn't mind me taking my socks off, he just gave me a weird look. Honestly, I can't stand this guy. He goes barefoot ALL THE TIME at his house, and he never washes! It's horrid! My feet are always clean (points to sig), yet he refuses to let me remove my socks. I went barefoot at my own house when he was there, and I know for a fact that the thought of me not wearing socks was on his mind. He kept looking at my feet, and honestly, I don't like it. I'm staying over his house again, this time, I don't give a toss, I'm not wearing socks. I'll turn up in socks, but by night time, my socks will be off in a flash! I don't care what he says. And if HE has a problem with it, he'll be the one getting weird looks.

 

as I said earlier, wear flipflops and no socks. problem solved.

good that you are not going to let him dictate to you about wearing socks.

 

You had two fatal flaws:

1. You asked him if you could remove your socks, thereby making a point of the fact that you wanted to do it and that you required his permission to do so, rather than just doing it as a matter of course
2. You were wearing socks in the first place. If you'd worn sandals or flip flops, you wouldn't have had the awkwardness of having to remove shoes and socks, which always looks a bit wierd.

I'm a barefooter through and through, but I have to say that I'm not keen on people turning up at my house in shoes and socks and then taking both off. If they've been wearing socks in shoes (or enclosed shoes with no socks) then their feet will necessarily be somewhat sweaty, and while I'm a fan of being barefoot, I'm no fan of foot odour. Someone who arrived at my house in sandals or better still, already barefoot would not have that problem.

And there is the solution, just turn up at his place barefoot next time! At that point he can either let you in, or turn you away for no other reason than your being barefoot, which would look rather petty, wouldn't it?

 

I agree with txbarefooter's solution, i.e., wear flip-flops and no socks. I like Kay-E-Dee's idea even better, which is to show up at the guy's house already barefoot.

 

These are not friends AT ALL. You show up any way you like, and if there's any of this double-standard-static on the part of these control freaks, then take it as a sign that they're not your friends; or at least, not good friends. What a wack job. Sorry. You're too free a spirit to knuckle under this claptrap.

 

Just take slip your shoes off when you walk in the door. Or better yet, don't even wear them to his house in the first place. You feet are beautiful and shoudn't be covered anyway. If he's a true friend he will understand that being bare is a part of who you and it won't be a big deal. All my friends know I go bare and it's just taken for granted that when I come over I'm gonna be bare. It's more of a big deal if I wear shoes!

 

I agree with barefootbob and Kay-E-Dee. Just show up barefoot or in flip-flops and slip them off. Don't ask, and don't talk about it unless he does. Your friend is probably just a bit squeamish about talking about feet.

 

As always, Kay-E-Dee gives a very intelligent analysis. And I don't understand why you wore socks, as you were so very enthousiastic about the idea of wearing flip-flops! Gives me the impression that being barefoot is somewhat of a obsession for you. Go for it, do if if you want to and don't if you don't want to!

 

This is a very old thread. I've only just started wearing flip-flops.