I think I did a very bad thing..

So some of you remember me and my story of child custody, drunk ex, and the rough time I had going through my breakup. And some of you know that we've been friends lately, and even having sex. Even though he has a girlfriend. I was doing it cause I hate her, and I guess sex is the only tool I have against her. But I'm just fooling myself cause he's just using me... And still with her. Doesn't want to break up with her cause he uses her too! lol So being the fucking vindictive bitch that I am, I told her!!!!!! This was last night, and today I have had the worst fucking anxiety... Shitting all day, my stomach in knots, Not eating, not even drinking alcohol which is weird for me. So anyway normally I wouldn't care if he's mad at me for telling her, but Jade's bday party is on Saturday, and we're supposed to go shopping on Friday for her, and he's coming to the party. So I'm worried that he's really mad at me and that it might ruin the party with all my family and all his family!!!!! He didn't call me today which I'm hoping is a good sign.. Any ideas about this?

And I know I'm a terrible whore and evil for cheating with him numerous times, and then telling her. But I'm seriously screwed in the head.. And I don't think I can be happy unless he's not happy with her.

He may have even possibly denied it all to her, but if that's the case she'll never know the truth. So I'm just sick about the whole thing.. And I needed to vent. Don't hate me guys.

 

She deserves to know that her boyfriend is cheating on her, and if he would ruin his daughter's birthday party out of spite, he doesn't deserve any sympathy at all.

 

Thank you for being objective. Even though I did tell her out of spiteful reasons..She does need to know the truth, and I did it in the most tactful way that I could.

Also, the reason I'm worried that he'll be mad at me is cause he told me before that if I told her he'd never talk to me again.

 

Double post, sorry.

 

maybe you need to seek some professional help?

 

Ohhh lady, that's a sticky situation your in. You need to realize that your own happiness has nothing to do with the people around you being miserable. At first, hurting someone who has hurt us feels really really good, but we quickly learn that the results of our actions are always negative. All of this just stirs up more trouble for you and Jade, lady, you know this. You need to think long term honey, not just immediate relief from the pain you're obviously still feeling.

 

maybe you SHOULDN'T talk to him anymore...i mean other than the necessary for your daughter

 

im pretty sure i live near you, ill beat his ass.


j/k, but just don't let him come to the party and keep him as much out of your life as possible. hes bad vibes.

 

Thanks guys.. yea he is bad vibes, but I just can't get him out of my head!! And he has to come to her party.

 

i love you jadesmom. if hes cheating on her with you, then it should prove a point, that he isn't fit to date a squirrel. what an ass. if he doesnt want to live with the consequences of cheating, then he shouldn't cheat. period.
but you shouldnt invest any more stress in him. be cordial, stop letting him use you, and take the high road. hes an ass. >>Hugs<<

 

YEAH! You totally don't deserve his bullshit, you're a fine looking lady, go out and getcha self a man that'll treat you right.

 

if he hasn't called or talked to you yet, then maybe he is trying to deal with his ex-girlfriend who is extremely mad haha. maybe she beat his ass good! jk

but anyway, if you do find out that he's mad and what not,
tell him if he has anything to say about it, to wait until after jade's party,
so that there isn't any drama during the b-day party.

 

I'm sorry but you need to get a life. Make some new friends, find a guy of your own and get out of your ex's life.

 

So basically, you were feeling down, so you made it so everyone else around you feels the same way? Honestly, knowing what you've told us, I can say that you're on the same level as him now... chicks like you scare the shit out of me. Seek help.

 

I have been in a bad way for the past 6 months.. I loved him for a long time, he fathered my child. I already have anxiety and depression issues. Breaking it off with him was hard, but then him immediately dating this old girlfriend really shook me. It made it ten times worse. I still haven't gotten over him. And I still haven't talked to him since this little incident. So I still don't know what's going on. And not knowing anything is scaring me..

 

well fucking GET over him already. some self respect might help too. not to sound like a total ass (i know i prob do) sorry

i know much easier said than done.

 

SEEK HELP!!! seriously.. do it.. now.. what your ex did is called a rebound.. ex's do i all the time.. and we do it as well.. shit fuckin happens.. DEAL WITH IT...
If you super sad and fragile and accept your own prognosis
Yourpychopharmocoligistcanexpediteyourdoses(mary poppins style)

 

At least you knew what you were getting into. Sleeping with a girl and finding out right after sex she has a boyfriend is no fun. I could not find my car keys fast enough.

 

Yes, he is the father of your child and thus will always be part of your life, okay I understand that, but seriously get out of his life! You've got to get a life of your own.

Think about your child, you teach her by your example. Ask yourself what has she learned from what I have done?

You have anxiety and depression issues? How do you want Jade to deal with these things if she has them? Set the example.

Remember you're a parent now, ask yourself what kind of home am I making for my child? Am I teaching her to fly or wallow in the mud?

Teach your children well,
OWB

 

lol bakedgoods!!!!

Ok update- I finally got a hold of him. He doesn't hate me, but I can tell he was VERY mad at me. He was able to lie to her, and smooth things over so they are still together. I guess I can revel in the fact that their relationship will never be sacred no matter how long it lasts.

I guess he was thinking about just "walking away" he told me, but he couldn't do that because of Jade. We are friends, we still have some sort of a fucked up relationship going on. If could just keep his hands off me when I'm with him maybe I wouldn't get so fucked up in the head about it.

I've been talking to a couple of friends about it for the past hour and I think I know why I do this to myself. I think I thought that when I finally left him I would be the one to be happy.. Find that great guy, have that great job, and I don't. I'm single and very lonely, and he's not.. He's moved on, and I haven't. So I think I need to stop resenting him for it, and it might help. I just have so much resentment inside me!!! But anyway, we're still going shopping for Jade's bday presents on Friday, and the party will go on as planned. So I'm relieved. I did a lot of crying and apologizing to him.. I didn't do it to hurt him, just to hurt her. And that is really bad.

But I will get better over time.. Most important thing is Jade, and I need to keep reminding myself of that.

Thanks guys though