how did you understood you were bisex?

The question is for Gay and Lesbians, too.
Was it because you found yourself in love with some one of the opposite sex, or because your fantasy went to their body? Or what?

 

When I was younger, preteen and starting puberty, I looked at girls a lot and thought they were pretty. I've always like females for some reason (just in general), but real women, not bimbos. I sort of didn't believe I COULD be gay at that time though, and I didn't know what it meant to be bisexual. It wasn't the right time for me to know because I wasn't ready to be accepting of myself (at that time I thought it was a sin to be gay).

I went a few years thinking I was straight, while still appreciating the beauty of women. Then, two years ago I met a phenomenal woman. She was lots older than me, and not gay or bi, but I was becoming smitten with her. She was uber smart and really cool. I was also dating her son at the time! I didn't really believe I was falling for her though. I just thought she was really cool. Then (after me and my bf broke up), I started having dreams about her like every week. Just little scenes where I'd see her and smile, or she'd laugh with me. We'd hold hands or snuggle and kiss. I'd wake up from these dreams feeling like I was in love. The dreams were fulfilling the longing I had for her love. I knew she liked me and cared about me, but not like she was in my dreams. IRL she was sort of my mentor for a while there and helped me out with a lot of things. I'm really grateful I had her.

After I'd been having these dreams for awhile and thinking about her almost every day, my denial sort of went away and it hit me that I must have feelings for her. I analyzed all my attractions to other women and things I had felt for them in the past and present. How much I loved the strong female spirit. I realized, hey, I'm bi! And I was so cool with it. I felt like I had sort of found myself.
Even though I had feelings for my friend though, I knew we could never have anything more than what we do, and I was okay with it.

I don't have as many dreams about her now. I think what I had for her was mainly deep admiration and infatuation. I don't have the same strong feelings I was having for her last year, but we're becoming closer friends. There's still some mystique about her that just gets me though.... something about her that is so intriguing... I don't know.

Ah well. I'm happy! Btw, I've considered myself bi since early 2007.

 

I suppose it started with fantasy of what it would be like to be intimate with a guy.

It was about 1966 and I was in the Air Force, living with guys in the barracks (and seeing them occasionally in the shower) Nothing ever happened there, but at that time I read about the gay scene on Fire Island NY. (In Playboy magazine surprisingly).

That made me think about my own attraction to guys, then in New Orleans a few years later, with gay men around me I ventured to get intimate with some gay guy friends.

 

I think it stated for me with fancying anougher guy, - i kinda keped it to my self then i found other guys at the school attractive. Did some stuff with one of my m8's and i then considered i was bi.
I keped it to myself first so i didn't get "gay bashed" but now i just think - i am hear quer get used to it kinda thing.

 

even as a very young child (pre-school age.) i engaged in sex play with both boys and girls. when i was age 9 my, friend vickie (age 8) we were in her room one night while, our parents were playing cards in the den. vickie said to me "i'll show you mine if, you show me yours." typical child sex play. she put my dick into her mouth then, she let me put my finger into her. i had gotten up to the point where i had put three fingers into her when, my mother open the door to tell me we were going home. well, my mother went apeshit when she saw my fingers in vickie's vagina! vickie was lucky; her parents gave her a hygine lesson: "don't
put your fingers or, let anyone else put their finger in you unless, you or, they wash their hands first and, make sure you or, they have trimmed their finger nails too." i was not so lucky. when we got home; my mother strip me butt naked and beat the living shit out of me with a curtain rod. she kept me out of school and away from people for two weeks because, i was black and blue all over my body. that was the first time i got caught at childhood sex play and, it was the last time too! after that incedent i became far, far, far, more cunning and sneaky with my sexuality when it came to my parents. when i was 10 and vickie was 9 we tried fucking.

at 13 i knew something was "wrong" with me. i realized i like looking at the boys the same way i liked looking at the girls. vickie pick up that something was going on with me. one day she got us alone and told me to spit it out. i told her i like looking at the boys and girls in the same way. she started laughing and, said to me: "i like both boys and girls too!" she told me she had been having sex with another girl for awhile. she said i should just try sex at lest once with another boy. i did not have to find another boy... he found me first. i knew then that i like sex with both boys and girls. i'm now 51 and, vickie is now 49. we are still best friends and sex friends too. vickie and i were never boyfriend/girlfriend or, lovers. vickie herself has admitted to me that i was cut out for the boyfriend/girlfriend ritual or, marriage. as she has said my parents fucked me up quite well in that regard!

 

right about the time a girl busted in my bathroom stall door and laid a lip lock on me like none i'd experienced before. before then i'd just always thought girls were wonderfully beautiful. but having not had any physical experience with them, i just chocked it up to fantasy. after that, all bets were off. and i have since had a woman bust in my bathroom stall door and lay a liplock on me. i wonder if they were the same girl/woman.

 

damn mamak... sounds like a hot encounter!

i just knew i didn't like boys, but i liked playing the kissing game "let's practice for when we kiss boys." and the groping game "let's practice..." i really liked that part of an all girl's bording school. then i discovered the internet, which told me what lesbianism is. it was all downhill from there.

 

I had a long time crush on a best girl friend for a few years.
I fantasized a lot about her, and tried chalking it up to a phase.
Having crushes on girls for as long as I'd been having crushes on guys?
Yeah, not a phase. Though I tried to make it so, because my mom had tried to tell me before ït's natural for girls to want to experiment with one another...it's just a phase".
Had I been straight, that would've been comforting to hear, but instead it made me think it was something I'd grow out of.
It was really hard to admit to myself that I like both men and women, but after accepting it, I've felt so much better.

 

Strange thing is I realized I was attracted to guys very early like age 10 or so. Always repressed these feelings though. I spent most of my life dating women and repressing this male attraction. Wasn't until I was 19 that I had my first gay relationship. I didn't realize I was bi then but it rather confirmed for me that I was.

 

girls are so pretty.
in fifth grade I always found myself staring down my friends shirt.
sixth grade we played truth or dare and etc. we kissed and everything.
but I figured it was just playing games. so I considered myself straight...

And then I met Autumn. :]

 

hey sunshine...I'm in 7th, going into 8th...I've had fairly similar "encounters" lets say.

 

After being exposed to many, many kinds of porn, thanks to the Internet, I started to realize that I like the gay stuff as much as the straight stuff. I thought about it some more, and decided that I would like to try relationships with other guys. Still looking, though.

 

I think I've always known, I've supressed it cause my enviorment hasn't been very gay/bi friendly. I never really knew it was an option. When I was 14 I was so in love with a girl from my class and in high school I met a girl that I really liked alot. I have never been with a girl besides making out but I know that it's who I am. Any tips on how to meet girls lol xoxo

 

when i mett my history teacher soph year

 

I realized that I was attracted to women in addition to men. Each gender has traits to which I am attracted.

 

I think for me it was that I've always been sexual. I never really attached it to gender. I'd see sex on tv and it made me feel something, watching both of them. I knew it for sure when I fell in love with a girl a couple of years below me. She just struck me as beautiful and cool and she left me (and still does) with that feeling that I've met her in another life. Luckily she thought I was really cool as well and so we hung out a lot, but I never told her how I really felt, despite our making plenty of "I'd go gay for you" jokes. Now I think it's evolved into something more fluid. Since having a serious relationship with a girl I've developed a lot more confidence and I feel equal to men and women, noticing the similarities more and more. I think I'm in the best place possible, seeing the beauty in both sexes. That's my story anyway.

I love reading about everyone's experiences, it's so nice to hear people who've come out, at least to themselves and the web, happier where they stand.
x

 

I was basically a-sexual till about 11th grade, then I sort of realized I was gay and I came out, everyone was fine yada yada. About a year to a year and a half later I noticed I had attractions for women as well, though I thought nothing of it I didn't want to abandon my gay identity becuase I was comfortable with it. I ended up going to College and taking Women Studies. I was taught about gender and told it was more than two and became much more comfortable talking about gender. At the same time I started dating a pre-op trans guy which made me re-evaluate myself and my sexuality. Heck I questioned my Gender Identity, although realizing I was comfortable as a guy. My friend told me that he identifies as pansexual and the more I thought about it, the more it fit. So here I am, Pansexual Pride

 

I think it was about a year and a half to two years ago. At some point, I realized a male could be just as attractive as a female. Besides that, I saw nothing wrong with being straight, gay, or bisexual.

Believing in God, I really DON'T think he has a problem with gays AT ALL. I don't think he'd limit us to straight or nothing else.

Maybe it's because I can relate to other males, perhaps better than I can with other females?

Another thing that made me bi was how much I LOVE cumshots

 

i had thoughts/feelings about other girls from early in puberty. not many but enough for me to remember having them! but i read that it was pretty normal to think like that every now and again, and they certainly weren't stronger than the feelings i had for boys, so i didn't pay them much thought.

then when i was 16 a girl i knew as a friend (although not a close friend) came out as gay. i don't know if it was specifically knowing she was gay (and therefore might reciprocate) or just generally people talking about her sexuality led me to more readily think about her in a sexual way that led to it, but i developed a major crush on her.

i wound up finding ways for us to spend more time together, we clicked, we started flirting, and eventually got together and were together in a relationship for a few months (before for various reasons we went back to being just good friends - and still are).

i briefly wondered if i might be gay because i felt very strongly about her, but i also knew i was still attracted to men... after we broke up i had experiences with both men and women that just reinforced for me that i liked both.

 

To be honest, I am only 16 and I've kinda always known I've liked guys, I did stuff with other guys when I was 8 or 9, and in another post I explain what I did with my other friend. So I can never remember being not bi, but I still am very unsure if I am bi, because I haven't fancied any girls for a while, and am preferring the gayer stuff right now. . So when I figure it out, I'll let ya know. Hehe.