Me and my ex are back talking again for about a week now-that whole week we argued about what happened in the past. well since we were arguing we were also having great great sex -_- I try to tell him lets hang out more but we always get caught up having sex. now its not like we dont get along. We get along great out of bed but we just love..love having sex. the reason why he IMd me (after not talking for almost a year) is that he wanted me back so i go over there and we talk and talk. he presumes to tell me after sleeping together, that a girl he was trying to go out with for like 3 weeks, finally answered him back for the 2 wks he was waiting.....now in girl language...waiting that long to respond usually means..... yeah ill hang with you but i probably wont date you or you're not my type... I tried telling him that nicely and he said "yeah i know.." and im thinking ..dude just go out with me, we have more in common...i know you better and so on. He met this girl online so hes just waiting until she says YES TO MEET HIM. Im beating my head against a wall. So im trying to get some common sense in his head that he should dump this girl and go with me. He says hes confused....he likes me AND he likes the other girl. I said what does she have that I dont? he said im just like her...but hes more comfortable around me. So I gave him a choice--go out with her and you'll never see me again or go out with me knowing you'd be happier and more comfortable.....he freaked and said "never? like never never?" I said im sick of your shit hopping around with women. So he jumped up and ran online to tell her hes not meeting her anymore. So i dunno if it was I SHOULD do to make him stable and stand his ground or if I am just a bitch. He usually leaves me when we start arguing and thats not good. I feel bad for the next girl he goes out with. Im trying to tell him to stop because it all comes back to him. Like now, im threatening to leave him but he doesnt want me to go. I wanna make him talk to me more not me always mailing him or talking to him but i need advice on how to do that.....hes so a virgin at relationships, i was his first time and first girl he had ever been with....I mean i dunno what to do, he leaves when we argue or something goes wrong, and im the one begging him to come back. I dont know why, hes like the biggest pain in the ass but i really really like him lol. and when i laugh or be a bitch at his anger, he gets pissed cause i wont argue with him back, but he'll grab me and kiss me like nothing happened and i forget about it....if anyone seen THE NOTEBOOK yeah that describes us very well....lol so does anyone have advice that could help this situation or have had one like it and what did you do to ease the pain? thanks stacy
Hmm, he shouldn't be saying he wants you back and then getting ready to leave for another girl. He needs to make up his mind, you or her. I understand your frusteration, being caught in the middle isn't fun and it certainly isn't good when at any minute he could just up and leave you. I suppose that's all relationships, though. I think your choice was pretty fair, but if I were you I'd let him meet this girl (if she actually wants to) and if they hit it off, great, if not then take it from there.
well for one, im not controlling, im just trying to stop him from making mistakes from this girl. someone told me that i was the confused one-I mean i keep getting talked into sex, im not easy by far but he has a way with words, I tell him to stop, and he stops, but i really want something more than just sex. now im questioning myself if i should just give up and find someone else, like ignore him for awhile?
Wouldn't you wanna be with someone who wants you and JUST you? I mean I know it's easy for me to tell you to just let go but a lot harder for you to actually do it... but in the long run, don't you think you'd be happier without someone whose feelings you can't trust completely? He clearly wants the cake and eat it too, but most relationships don't work like that..
thats why im disciplining him. i dont want him to do this to any other girl. he creates little surprises and its sad. I think what im going to do is being aloof for awhile and see what happens
