Please help I need some advice!!!!!

So I met this woman at work that I instantly fall for. Not just looks but she has this......I dunno somthing you know. So she comes and works in my department about 5 or 6 months ago and I proptly ask her if she was married and she aknowledges that she was with three children so I cut my feelings off from her. I tell myself"dude she is married so just be friends". However this woman starts really heavy flirting with me things like comes over and leans close to me and just looks into my eyes just the kind of things a woman that is married should NOT be doing if she is married. I develop feelings for her and start persuing her asking her if she needs help with things and doing some of her work. at first she came over and asked me for help but I feel that she was turned off by overenthusiastic ways or something. She was talking about leaving her husband and so I fell further into the world of "what if". Then I realized 1 day that I had crossed the line and was becomming obsessed and promptly distanced myself (which means not making a fool out of myself but still flirting and persuing). She is getting transferred in a few weeks to anouther branch of the company and I told her "I will really miss you". She told me that they would get anouther replacement and that I woulf forget all about her. I asked her "what you don't have any confidence in yourself"? Her answer was something and this probably isn't exact words but "there are good friends and friends for good times. meaning that there are friends that come and go". So I asked "so when are we going to have goodtimes"? she told me "keep dreaming". So I have given her my # and told her to let me know how things go. The question I have is was it all just a tease and she never had any feelings or was it something else since her and her hsband seem to be getting along better. I had told her before that I remembered the first day that we met beczuse she hadn't come to work with my department until some time after and she told me "I had always wondered if you remembered that day". What the hell was it? Ladies let me know your honest answer. Also she has a few more days that I will be working with her should I tell her my feelings or would that be a mistake. How should I act.

 

I think she gets something out of having you drool after her because she's not getting enough attention from her husband. It's kind of a game to make her feel better about herself, and possibly to piss her husband off. My opinion is, be casually friendly to her until she leaves. Work on finding a woman who is not attached. You don't want all this baggage. Seriously. If you have never been married and are wanting to, in your 30's you have to keep an eye out for women who are available and share your interests. They are out there. Good luck in whatever you do.

 

Thank you anyone else?

 

First reply pretty well hit it... She was just loving your attention and was simply having fun... Who doesn't like to do that sometimes? I'm sure you still had fun with her and likewise with her.

 

The problem is that I fell in love and now long for her now that she is gone! I don't know if I should drop it or persue it. She said she is going to keep in touch and I told her how I felt.

 

You'll get over it. It isn't love. I would advise you to drop it. The worst case scenerio is you get your ass kicked by her husband and his friends. The best (?) scenerio is she leaves her husband for you, breaking up her family and causing a lot of heartache. It's so not worth it.
Find an unmarried woman between 25 and 40 who you find attractive, who finds you attractive, and that you share interests and similarities with. Work on developing a friendship with this woman, which can grow into a love relationship. Or, if you are just really, really horny, go to a bar and pick up a woman. This can be done in a matter of a couple of hours, and couldn't hurt anything. Who knows, you might fall in love.
Good luck though, I'm sorry for the pain and confusion you are going through. It will get better. Trust me, I have been messed up over guys before, and it sucks, but eventually you get over it.

 

Now I find out that she recieved another job offer and will be leaving soon. I'm kinda bummed