So I guess my situation is pretty complicated, but I will sum it up real quick. Because details are not important, but I would like to think one of these methods works better than the rest. I broke up with my g/f, but we have some certain traits about each other that are hard to overcome. She broke up with me, and then started with someone else to help ease the pain. She has been dating him for a little or month now, but he is having to go for a four month trip overseas very soon. We still talk practically daily, even though it hurts me to see her with someone, I still really enjoy her friendship. She has slipped a couple of times, and said they she still feels for me, even though we have our difficult differences. Anyway, without getting into those differences. She is a very monogamous person, and likes to keep her attention to one man, so she has covered A LOT of her true feelings she still has for me. .......So here is my question. What is the best way I should pursue this to get her greatest attention? -should I stop calling her, and only talk when she calls me. -should I go ahead and start a new relationship (or fake one), if so... - should I act like I am happier with my new date (even if I wasnt) - should I say the truth and tell her that she is far more special to me than my new date. -or should I still keep talking to her like we are as of now, and try to hang out with her whenever possible. So, it is hard for her to forget about me. Thanks for any thoughts or experiences.
Start a new relationship and move on man...if its meant to be it will be. And definitely be honest with her...tell her how you feel but understand she is in a relationship and you want to honor that by keeping your relationship strictly platonic. If she really really feels for you she'll tell you and you can work from there but don't try to break up her relationship that'd make matters worse. Just be open and candid and express how you feel let her choose her own path. Good luck bra. ~SKiLLz~
I'm in the same position. I don't think she's dating anyone tho. But I still believe she's the one for me, as for her she doesn't quite think the same. She knows I'm always there. I just try to hang it in there, help her out with problems even tho it hurts (if their guys issues), if it makes her happy then I'll do it. Don't ruin something she enjoys or like. I knows it hard but in the end you might be the only person she can really open to. To sum it all up just be there for her, be a friend. Sometimes I joke about I like her or we should date etc just to let her know I'll take her back whenever she's ready. Good luck
- should I say the truth and tell her that she is far more special to me than my new date. that one the ones before it are dumb games kids play, and the one after it will lead to a friends only relationship/awkwardness
Really, you are probably just hurting yourself talking to her and seeing her with someone else... You should be upfront with her and tell her you want to rekindle things with her. If she says no, what have you lost or gained?
