what do i do???

ok.....well i sorta have a problem....i get way too wet way too fast... i like get soaked through the pants from just kissing!!!! this fact doesnt bother me, i think its good, and from this forum guys have said that was good...the BAD thing is that im not having sex yet, so all i do is make out and stuff... im scared that next time me and my new bf go to dry hump ill get everything all wet!!! i dont really wanna get his pants wet...and what do i do about mine? do i bring a change of cloths?? lol this really bothers me...is there anything to do? i dont wanna put something in my underwear cus i dont want my bf to feel it...idk what to do any ideas???

 

Hey-

Interesting post. I really don't see anything wrong with ya though, or anything to be embarrassed about. You never know...maybe your boyfriend will really like it. It may be a personal taste, but I know if I found out my g/f was like that, I think I'd really be turned on just by the thought of being able to do that to her.

Hope this helps,
Cody

 

It may be a personal

thats the thing, what if its not his taste?? is there anything i can do? i doubt it, but it doesnt hurt to ask...

 

I wouldn't worry about it, its a good way for him to know that you're turned on, its better than being too dry.

 

Aye... Not to mention, thats hot as hell.

 

yah...i knew a girl like that once...it was great. my current girlfriend doesnt get wet at all and it makes the whole act of doing anything a million times more difficult. every guy likes it.

 

if its not his taste...then his taste isnt in you....get where im going with this? the only thing you should have to worry about with the wetness is how other people view it...if your bf can't handle dry humping you, how is he supposed to handle anything further?

 

Have you discussed this with your bf? If it is something that makes you uncomfortable, then you should ask him how he feels about it. If he is accepting, or even enjoying it, then you will be able to relax.

If communication isn't an option, then I'd wear a pantiliner. You need to feel comfortable, whatever the case...

 

yeah, i was planning on talking about it to my bf, thing is i am just scared cus i know how hes very...clean (lol), not that that has anything to do with my being too wet, but u get my drift...

 

I understand. But like dangermoose said, if your guy doesn't like you, because of that, then he isn't the right guy for you. You need someone who likes girls that are wet. So, don't think of it as "Oh gawd, what will I do if he doesn't like it?!" Think of it as a great opportunity to see if you two are a good match in the bodily fluids department. Because, if he doesn't like it, then you don't want him.

 

I couldn`t have said it better myself

 

You are not having sex,that is the thing,if you are not ready,stop kissing boys and making out.This could lead to trouble if you aren't ready.Being that wet isn't a bad thing and if you stay that way when you are older......watch out! But,you are young,growing into a woman and experiencing boys.Just the thought adds excitement to your curiosity.Be careful! most guys love this and the excitement may be too much for them and before you know it,you are doing things you were not ready for.
I would think wearing a pad would be much more embarrassing!
The only way to deal with it is be ready or stop fooling around.

 

i disagree distantreamkiss....i disagree whole heartedly. im not willing to smoke crack or shoot up, but that doenst mean i can't handle a joint, or mushrooms, or even acid. if you play a video game and you cna't beat the final boss...should you stop playing the game untill you can beat the boss? how do you expect her to prepare for things that will happen later on in life if she doesnt even do the begining stages of those things?

 

I think that as long as you know how far you are willing to go than it shouldn't be a problem. I kissed boys a long time before I ever did anything else with them, I just knew (before we even started to kiss) that nothing else was going to happen. As far guys wanting more, just say no, if they keep pressuring you, you can always leave.

 

Plus, I'm 34, now... But, when I was younger, in my 20s (and before), I was quite self-conscious; to the point of not allowing cunnilingus to be performed on me. I am a rather moist girl, myself, so I can relate to her concerns. I didn't fully embrace my sexuality/femininity and all that goes with it, until my much later 20s. I wish that I could have been more comfortable, earlier.

No, it is better that she learns how to effectively deal with the situation, now, rather than suffer through years of fear and low self esteem. Absolutely, she should not have sex, until she is ready. But she isn't worried about having sex, right now. She's worried about seat wetting, which is pretty normal, but can be distressing if you are unfamiliar with it.

She needs to talk to her bf about it. It may be a conversation that she will have with more than one guy, until she is comfortable enough with her body and most guy's reactions. One day she will be okay with it, but that will only come with positive experiences, reaffirming that she is to be desired.

Hiding in fear never helped anyone conquer it. 'Tis much better to face your fears head-on and overcome them. There, one will find strength. And what more difficult fears to overcome than those of our own person?

 

thats hot. i have no more to say

 

You should masterbate before you see your boyfriend so then you won't be all horned up for the make out sessions. It's a bad idea to go on a date with a loaded gun!

 

you have no idea how happy i am to have gotten so many replys, thank u so much, and i dont have to worry about my bf pushing me, we talked about that a lot since im not ready for sex and hes not a virgin (in the least lol) but i have way too much fun kissing to stop, i just dont like the idea of me SOAKING THROUGH, even if i do talk to him and he ends up being ok with it...its just uncomfortable, but i guess i cant do much about it huh? :&

 

Madbeast-

I'm not sure if you have seen your boyfriend since your last post, but I was wondering how it went. As before I would still say that would have to be a turn on for him, but who knows.

Hope it went well,
Cody

 

I agree with everything Autumn Auburn has said.

I was speaking on sexual awareness.maybe I misunderstood,but I thought the wettness came from the excitement of a kiss,a touch,ect.There may be a condition they call it,but in that case it would be more of a medical condition.
Some women do, what's called "creme" alot natural by the thought of a sexual act.There should be ways of handleing that and being comfortable with yourself but if this happens all the time just by a kiss,it would not hurt to speak with your doctor about it.
In the meantime it is better to discuss things honestly with your bf.
Most guys are jerks and would take your condition and turn it around for their own selfish reasons.Think or maybe brag to others,or take the meaning wrong and won't take no for an answer.I hope your bf is a good guy and understands and I think he is if he's not pushing you into anything.
Just do not rush into anything you aren't ready for.......

































































































































































































































































































































































































































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