I think I'm getting lonely living the way that I do. I shut myself off from my friends more frequently lately, I stay glued to my computer or I read, and I can see myself steadily becoming less social. I never go to a bar and drink. I need a boost. Something. I'm turning into a loser.
First, you're no loser because you don't go out much. Do you have any idea why you're alone all the time? If you want to change something, the only thing you can do is just go out all the time. Socialize even if you don't want to. I know exactly how you feel, I suffered from depression and didn't go out much, I only met my friends once a week or sometimes even less. So, if you think that could be the reason too, you should go and see a doctor. And if it's not the reason, you should just go get yourself a hobby, maybe a sport where you have to socialize with other people.
be happy you can go to bars without any hassle and just because you dont socially or dont drink in bars doesnt make you a loser. thats stupid, id say your fine, it will pass. with me such feelings come and go constantly, tho usually getting drunk and spending the night socialising with complete strangers helps
haha don't worry im the same way, all i do is work and stay home. I don't have any friends and i spent most of my free time watching t.v. or playing video games and the occasional casino trip. I stopped going out and seeing my friends because i was devoloping a bad coke habit. But now im clean and sober for one year and im happy as can be. Too bad you didnt live in vancouver, we could be losers together!! haha but dont worry, lots of people are like that, i prefer to be alone with my thoughts.
you arent a loser...you gotta do whatever makes you happy, and if staying in reading and being online makes you happy that keep doing it. but i would suggest not to shut yourself off from your friends, friends are important to have.
I think I should take up a sport again. I need to get back into playing something organized and maybe that could help get me out in the fresh air again. Thank you all for your reassuring kindness.
I think being glued to the computer could possibly be the problem, not the fact that you don't go to bars. get into nature maybe, all over the world there is beautiful nature. watch a sunrise or a sunset, perhaps. stargaze or watch the clouds. and I would definitely recommend reversing the shutting off towards your friends, maybe even meet some new people and make more friends. humans are social animals, and while it is (in my opinion) important to be alone sometimes, it is also imperative to have contact with other people.
Some people can not find enjoyment in solitude, that is unfortunate, I enjoy a good book, fishing alone, playing on my computer, watching a good flick by myself, listening to music or just contemplating life to be sources of peace and contentment. However I also enjoy the company of my few good friends, acting directing or backstaging in one of the little theaters productions, participating in monthly trivia competitions at our library, cooking for friends and family, equally enjoyable. There are times when you can be too introverted and times when you are to busy with outside activities to have an enjoyable balance in your life get away from your computers and take time to play frisbee with friends or take time from your hectic life to commune with nature and enjoy a good book. Bless you all for being there for me.
Taking up a sport would be a good idea. And you are no loser for not going out as much , so no more insulting yourself. and if that did make you a loser, my closest RL friend is over an hour away, I'm inside everyday . Damn new towns
Everyone has suggested good things. You aren't a loser. I haven't had a proper conversation with anyone outside of my family for nearly four years now (i.e no friends), I spend the majority of time at home alone and I have a job where I work alone. But I pay taxes and I contribute to society in a small way. That alone doesn't make even me a loser. But don't shut yourself off from your friends if they are there, that is unless you feel really uncomfortable around them. Friends are important because a person can't survive alone. The longer you spend alone the rustier your social skills get.
I hate being around people. People are all so nice to me and try to include me and stuff but i just want to be left alone. Its getting so bad that i havent gone to school in more than a week. i just sit in a park all alone. Is something wrong with me? Should i try harder to make friends?
I foresee your future due to your current path! I help you out and when I see a coupon for razor blades I will post it, or you can do the courageous thing and think about considering a 12 step program for starters!
