Hey. I just wanted to post a question thats been eating at me. I have the feeling that I want to come out to someone, but thinking it over, It really ISN'T the best decision to be made, and would be better if I didn't tell them. Is there any techniques in getting over this Exluding telling them about how I am ? Cheers, x Tayles
If it's your judgment that's it's better not to come out at this time, then don't come out. Don't try to suppress this reasoning.
Mmm, still makes me feel like s**t. I mean this person who asked me if I was gay, and is even gay himself (He is engaged and 13 years older btw) I just deny it, and I really...dunno...really cant explain it, I've known I have been this way for years, but its finally dawned on me. And I am having trouble dealing with it :S
I knew i was gay for ages and when people would ask id still say no, even though i knew i was. kinda wished i hadnt been like that but at the same time dont come out until your comfortable.
Mmm, what sucks is, all my friends are heterosexual and they all talk about cars and sports, and I always have to nod and go along with them. (Majority are homophobic, and I can hide it quite well) I think thats probably the main problem. *sigh* Oh well, shall hopefully make friends on here.
oh wow i kno what u mean....one of the ppl i kno at college asked me outa d blue if i was gay...i was taken aback n denied it. i am a gay 20yr old but still very much closeted. But i suspect ppl think i am gay bc of my voice (i hate my voice n the way i talk so much!!!!!!) i dont like ppl thinking i am gay...i personally have only come out to one person in my life (see my forum entitled "Totally_Hopless" for my story) n it was difficult, but in retrospect, i'm happy i did it. Good luck to u man! keep us posted!
Thanks Totally. Well I am happy people dont think I am gay, but its the nagging feeling where you sort of want em to know, but I know for a fact I'd lose my friends and my life would get shattered if i said anything. (I know friends aren't friends if they cant accept you, but you get what I mean) I shall keep ya posted =]
Come out when you're ready to come out. It took me talking to another lesbian to realize that I was gay, and even I didn't want to admit it (therefore I toyed with the idea of being bisexual, rather than gay). Luckily, none of my friends care one way or the other, and it is such a huge relief to not be hiding it from anyone. My suggestion would be to confide in someone who you know won't judge you for it when you want to come out. It's a very vulnerable time, coming out, and therefore (in my opinion) it's best to go about the matter slowly, and ease into the world as a homosexual. I hope you are able to find peace with your sexuality and your friends/loved ones. Good luck!
