About 6 months ago I met the love of my life. She's perfect in everyway, and she says feels the same about me. I moved to a new area and have family nearly 200 miles away I go to see maybe once a month at most, this is one of those weekends. Everything has been going amazing, like seriously amazing but last night she went out with some freinds, and kissed another guy. She has told me about it, and says she's really sorry and she doesn't deserve me etc etc. She says it was just a kiss, but I have also found out she got seperated from her friends and went home. I'm praying to God this was alone. I spoke to her earlier in the night, and in fairness she was very very drunk. I'm torn between an issue of trust now, and the fact I've never loved anyone more in my entire life. Should I overlook this as a small thing and move on, I'm not sure I will ever be able to trust her. I suffer occasionally from Anxiety attacks and have tablets for them, but this has really pushed me over the limit. I dunno what to do, I just feel like I want to be sick and/or cry. Please help me, Roy
I know how you feel. The love of my life. He Done something worst then that. So I have no trust and I dunno that without TRUST there is no relationship. So you have to chose. You have to be happy. See I have these feeling toward him that I don't know how to handle. So hang in there. Hope everythings works out for you. It will get better with time. I dunno that.
just ...wait ...and wait.one day u will feel the girl is nothing ...she dont desever to be care and love !!!! dont sad for that girl ,guy... wake up please..!!!and find a good girl ,then u know what is happy~
hate to break it to you like this, but she prolly isnt "the one" for you. a true gf wouldnt go get shit faced wo you and kiss another guy. Also, that is what she is telling you. There could be more to that story...which it does kinda seems like there is. It seems like yall would be good for eachother but like i said before, a true gf would NOT have gone out like that while you were gone
Though it could be more than what she said it was, she could also be telling you the unaltered truth. I think I'd question long and hard her feelings for you and whether you feel you can give her the trust that is needed to foster a healthy relationship. On the other hand, everyone makes mistakes. If it was me, considering the innocence of the story presented to you, I'd give her another chance. If it was honestly a stupid drunken mistake, you'll never hurt over it. If not, you'll bleed for awhile but everything heals. You will find love and lose it, again and again.
Ok so what she did was shady for sure but i definitely believe in second chances. Say you were out with your friends and got really drunk and kissed someone?
Let go of that ego my friend. You have probably pictured many women naked while you were with her. Drunk or not, does it really matter, she wants to be with you, do you really want to be with her? Think of it this way, in years you two may still be together and by then you might even be swinging and all types of different things, if all you want is one female to be faithful and love you and never even think of another man than good luck, maybe find your self a sexy Mexican mami, but even that is a long shot.
Shit happens dude, I hate to say it but you should give her another chance. If she breaks it again, well forget about her and move on with your life. You wouldn't be needing her anytime soon buddy.
Well theres a couple of questions you should be asking her, why did she leave her friends, did she leave with that guy? Find out if she is only telling you half of the truth of it just being a kiss (is she just softening the blow admitting that she cheated with only a kiss, get it?) I can tell you from my own personal experience w/o going into too much detail, my wife and I separated for a few months of infidelity lines crosses and have been back together for a few months, and up until the last couple of weeks its been quite rocky... It is ultimately going to come down to (and regardless if it was just a kiss or she straight out banged the dude) in your mind if you can/want to trust her again, I understand that you do love her and you probably will give her that second chance, but I will tell you now, you have to let that go completely you cannot have it in the back of your mind, you will go nuts... I went bonkers for 3 months while my wife and I were working things out because I didnt know how to trust her, trust is one of the biggest parts of chemistry in a relationship...It will weigh you down in a terrible way, so if you feel like its something you cant look past completely or have that doubt of not knowing if she did or did not, then my suggestion is to let her go....
she can absolutely be held responsible for her actions. I FUCKING HATE people that use drinking as their crutch....I have drank and done more drugs than the average bear and every time I am aware of what is going and the people around me.....When someone gets arrested for a DWI the cop doesn't say, "Oh you look really drunk you must not have known not to get in your car and drive." or "Oh you were really drunk, you must have meant to kill that person driving the other car." FUCK THAT....take responsibility for yourself
