Should I Wait Until I'm In A Relationship?

Hey so basically im 16 and not meaning to sound too big headed but I can get basically any guy I want =/ Erm but thats not the point, the point is im 16 and still a virgin, and when I tell people this they seem gobsmacked and say im a lier but yeah..lol anyways..

All ive been thinking about recently is having sex, I came so close to it the other night with this guy I know whos 24 but only looks 18 but I didnt because I was so unsure and I thought it was best not to lose my Virginity in that point in time, so anyways I wanted to ask you all,

Should I wait untill im in a stable relationship to lose my virginity?
(I have never YET had a relationship that exceeded over 5 days) =/

Or

Should I just sleep with a few people I know, I mean.. is there really any harm in that? Or will it just make people see me as a slag?

Please help =/

 

The only time you should have sex is when you're 100% comfortable with it. You should never have sex if you have doubts; so judging from the very point of this thread, I would say you're not ready yet.

I've never understood the stigma behind being a virgin. Your sex life is no one elses other than your own.

 

Wait, until your mature enough. You should never care what other people think.

 

I agree with Sarahrei, but at the same time you should NOT need a relationship to get laid, nor should you conform to one because society says that it is the repsonsible thing to do. Then the very next thing they will be saying is that you need to be married before you have sex... Well fuck that!!! These are the words of the decendants of conservative Christians that came over on the Mayflower, that are not in tune with todays liberal way of life.

Personally, I think you should have as much sex as you like, with whomever you like until your mid to late twenties. Then you can decide whether or not you conform to the traditional dream of a loving husband, 2.5 kids, and a house with a white picket fence. But until then, there should be no reason why you feel that you need to be in a relationship to get laid. Otherwise, if his sexual appetite is greater or lesser than yours, you'll both wind up hurting each others feelings - so it's not worth it with the countless people you'll encounter over the years. Just lead the single life and a remain a free spirit...

Peace.

 

with lots of diseases

 

You're a rebel.

 

^ he certainly is.

What's so horrible about being a virgin?
Or what's so horrible about not having sex?

Do you want a steady relationship at this time?
If so, it could be quite nice to save yourself until then. I know I am quite glad I lost mine to my girlfriend.

I know quite a number of UKanians around your age that haven't had sex yet; so I would try to ignore feelings of alienation if I were you.

Whatever you decide, however, is quite simply, your choice. Does it sound nicer to you to have sex with a bunch of random friends? Or does it sound nicer to wait until you find your first love?

 

your post made a lot of sence so thanks for posting, and i do want a steady relationship,, its just i care about looks AND personality so I can never find a good person who fits that criteria, on the other hand the guys who i have tried the relationship never lasts past 5 days =/

 

I agree with Duck in the sense that it should be with someone very special. But at the same time, you shouldn't have any expectation that you will be with that person for any extended amount of time. There's nothing wrong with finding love, but once you have sex, and you decide whether or not you're the promiscuous type, then I wouldn't worry about finding that special person just yet. Because you never know what new things you'll be open to - whereas your partner may not be.

 

5 days is quite short for a relationship, how did these things end so fast?

And as far as finding someone you are compatible with: patience.

 

Don't rush into it, you'll regret it in time, thats my thought anyway, but it is your choice.

 

I was in your basic situation when I was younger, and I chose to sleep with a couple of guys. I don't hate myself for doing it or anything, but you have to be careful. I sent myself down this road to having sex for the sake of sex and it was really difficult to stop. I finally had to realize that if I ever wanted a relationship to work out, I had to give up the meaningless sex. It took me 6 years to do that. Don't get yourself stuck in that situation. It may be embarrassing now, but when you're older you'll be glad that you waited.

 

i lost my virginity when i was 19 and i was not embarrased that it happened so late... and he is now my best friend (4 years later) so maybe luck?

 

Wait till you are in a relationship, I have a friend who never waits and then gets disappointed when the guy doesn't want to date her afterwards. Just take it slow, wait to have sex. I am twenty and still a virgin, don't worry so much about losing your virginity. If it is ment to happen it will happen.

 

I agree with you.... I think you should wait... Cuz you don't want to lose your Virginity just to anyone... It makes it more special when you wait for the right guy

 

Yay someone agrees with me for once. LOL:cheers2:

 

I'm not saying this is bad advice at all.... but having sex with a good friend isn't doing it with "just anyone". It might be nice.

What2do should do whatever she feels comfortable with, and whatever she does, should do it safely.

 

I didn't say she shouldn't have sex cuz then i'd be a hipocrite and yes I agree a good friend isn't just anyone.. But I guess we all think differently because it's not our virginity to give away

 

I'm 20 next week and I'm a virgin.. so really you aren't that old.. haha. I'll bet all those people that think it's weird are still virgins too.. or slags.
By all means do what you want to do and what you feel comfortable with.. but just know it doesn't really matter when you do it.

 

having sex with a 24 year old when you're 16 sounds like a bad idea. unless he's a close friend, he probably just wants to use you for sex. (maybe not, i know every situation is unique, but in general, that guy should be sleeping with females his own age or at least old enough and mature enough to make a decision like that.) i know when i was 16 i started sleeping around, mostly with guys at least 3 or 4 years older and maaan, i went through HELL for awhile. you start looking at sex all wrong. and word travels fast. i had a bad reputation for years because of all that. it will be harder to find a guy who wants to be in a serious relationship with you (when you decide that's what you want) if word on the street is that you're a hoe. i suggest waiting until you're in a relationship or choosing one person that you know you can trust to keep private things private, and just stick to that one person. i know that there's nothing wrong with sex and having pleasure, but realistically people DO look at you differently if you sleep around, and 16 is too young to make such life-changing decisions. make your first time special.