Ok I'm a guy first off I'm a guy and I'm not sure if this should be under Male Discussion or Female... I'm putting it under Female cause I'm hoping more woman will read this... if I'm not I apologize and someone can delete my thread. Ok so here's my problem, I really like this girl I work with and I think she likes me too. Or so I thought... Today at work she finished at 5 and went upstairs in the washroom to change into a fancy dress and when she came down we started talking. I obviously asked her what she was up to tonight since she was wearing this fancy dress. Well she told me she was going to some broadway show in Toronto with an old friend of hers. Then she asked me how she looked in her dress. I told her she looked really good, and then she left out the door. I feel so heart broken over this, first girl I really liked in a LONG time, and then she just smashes my heart like this... So I guess my question is, if a girl asks how shes looks in her dress does this mean she likes me at all and just looking for my reaction? Also should I continue chasing her or just give up and call it quits?
Wait...your heartbroken because she left? Of course she would leave....she was going to a show. I ask random people how I look because I feel like they would give me an honest answer. I don't know the girl so I can't say...but that was a little strange for you to say you feel so heart broken over a girl leaving after asking how she looks.
yeah I see what you mean, I only felt heart broken cause she was going to this show with a guy... it's like we spend this time getting to know each other and than bam she's going to broadway with some guy... I don't know just forget about the whole thing
Get to know her more. Become her friend. Find out what sort of relationship she has with this guy and make your move from there. And don't be creepy. Women like assholes, not creeps. :tongue:
Yeah your probably right smellysocks... it was just such a shock today at work, made me think about so much... but I'll deffinetly start being a better friend to her, see where that goes.
she said FRIEND not BOYFRIEND. friend =/ boyfriend, it means friend. probably totally platonic, otherwise shed say boyfriend. you are overreacting.
I think you read a lot more into the situation than there was. It seemed like a normal exchange to me. If you like her I would suggest mellowing out a bit because you will run her off in no time at all if you keep this up. Next time you see her ask how the play was, and tell her again "you looked great by the way! Sorry if I was a bit off. Long day I guess" If you want to pitch for a date you can add "I would love to take you out with you wearing that dress." It says I like you, and you are sexy....both great starts to a relationship.
Yeah so good news and bad news... good news is she told me the day after her night out with her friend that she was uncomfortable with him hitting on her, she was just looking for a fun night on with no head games... looks like I did over react. Bad news: she started talking to this one guy I work with and he was telling me how she is always asking him "when are we going to do something!". So I'm saying forget her, if she wants she'll have to come after me...
Wow you're lazy. Plus you tend to overreact. You need to mellow out some or you'll give off a creepy vibe. No one likes creepy.
well id say give it more time but maybe drop some hints saying that youre interested because maybe she just doesnt know how you feel keep spending time together and maybe shell sense the connection with you!
Yeah don't worry tree hugger I definetly see my over reacting, so I'm just going to play it cool. I'm going to ask if she wants to get some coffee sometime, that's casual enough.
Just because she was going out with an old friend, that doesnt mean she's interested in him (I'm assuming her friend is a dude). It's possible that she doesnt even like him and is only seeing him to show him how well she's doing and how great she looks. I know a girl who would do something like that.
Hey just got her humber in case any of you were wondering... Haha I'm just so happy. She actually phoned me up at work and told me get a pen and paper and then she told me her number and said give me a call this weekend if you want to hang out. Sooo, I feel like a bit of a goof for over reacting, but I definetly learned never to do that again. Thanks everyone for your advice.
Somehow I still think you didn't call her this weekend because you're waiting for her to make the next move..... :|
Oh hey, I didn't think people cared! So ok were definetly a couple now. Now get this! We go out friday night and catch a movie, well after the movie we drive down to Lake Ontario and find this great make out spot. Well she sits on the beach and I sit next to her, not before long were making out... Afterwards she tells me how she's always really liked me, so this was such a good thing to know. Then she asks me if I want to go up to her families cottage tomorrow just for the say (Saturday). So i say sure and we make our way up her families cottage and when there her ex-step moms husband says to us "why don't you just spend the night?" So Eryn (that's her name) and me discuss it and we both agree. We slept on the same blow up mattress all night, although no sex, it was fine by me. I was just happy to be near her. Were even closer now, This is going to be one hell of a good summer... Thanks for everybodies advise!
