Another 'should I worry' thread :S

Basically my boyfriend and I tried using condoms for quite a while but it just doesn't work for him because he loses too much feeling and can't stay hard. I agreed for the following few times to use the pull-out method, which we have done around six times. Every time he has pulled out quite a while before cumming- and finishes off with his hands. If we are having sex again and he has ejaculated (outside my body) a few hours previously, I always give him head for a good while which I presume can get rid of any sperm that may still be lurking. Despite this, I have found myself recently paranoid about pregnancy. My period has always been very sparadic so I have no comfort of that confirming I'm not pregnant, and I get paranoid if for example my breasts are feeling slightly tender, or if I feel remotely sick, both of which can easily happen to me anyway.

I have resolved to go on the pill to ease my worry in the future, but would like to know if my paranoia about the last few times is reasonable? Am I worrying to a large extent over something very unlikely? Or should I be looking out, with concern, for signs of pregnancy?

Any responses would be greatly appreciated

 

No you're worrying for a reason: pull out method is very unreliable. But don't worry too much Just like you said you probably go on the pill, seriously. If you're still worries you can always take a test just to be sure and remember: worrying and stress can change your hormone thingy so you can get nauseous and all that or sporadic periods. good luck

 

Withdrawal is a fairly risky form of contraception. I have got pregnant this way but i knew the risk and we were going to try soon anyway. So i'd say its definitely a good idea to be on a better form of contraceptive.

nope! the sperm will still be there and it only takes one to get pregnant. Good luck. You probably aren't pregnant but there certainly is a risk.

We don't do withdrawal anymore. We go most of the time without the condom, and then put it on near the end. We don't do repeat sessions as we think its too risky. Unfortunately I cant use hormonal contraceptives.

 

Thanks for your responses

I suppose the best thing I can do is to try not to work myself up into too much stress and paranoia, and just wait and see if any symptoms emerge/if my irregular period ever arrives? And if I am still paranoid in a week or two, I may get a pregnancy test. Is there anything else I can do? How long do you think I can leave it before being certain that I'm not pregnant?

 

Six months should be enough, probably.

My wife had her period for the first four months of her pregnancy, so six months should be long enough to be sure.
(Nope, no morning sickness or other symptoms)

 

I would opt for the pill, as it seems to be the best form of contraception, and there are no worries then, as long as you don't miss any . Have no worries, I was like this too before I started to take the pill as well as once I was on the pill. I.E. I was totally worried I was pregnant when it was time for my first period to roll around and it didn't come right away so I totally freaked, bought a pregnancy test and found out it was negative, a few days later you can guess who showed up. So the total paranoia over being pregnant must be somewhat normal for some people. (I'm also a stoner so the smoking might have something to do with it for me at least)

 

I am definitely planning on using the pill and the pull out method together from now on, so thanks for people's help with reassuring me that the pill is probably for the best. I just want to get over my current paranoia about the few times I relied only on pull out. Sorry to continue asking questions, but would pregnancy tests be more difficult due to the fact that my periods are so irregular and so it would be difficult to judge when is best to use one? I am hoping also that irregular periods may decrease my chances of pregnancy anyway. My periods have been known to be as much as 5 months apart, and the doctor suggested I may have polycystic ovaries, yet I have had 2 normal periods last month and the month before that were correctly spaced so maybe they are naturally getting more even. It is hard to tell! Well, I'm hopefully worrying over nothing here, but I think it is good for me to feel some concern and force myself to consider my capability of handling such scenarios as pregnancy. (Incidentally, I believe that I would definitely want an abortion if it came to it; the medical, psychological and moral implications of which I have carefully considered for years to reach the decision that it would be the best thing to do for my age and life situation.)

 

anyone?

 

Right, so I'm sorry to go on about this, but I got my period 2 days ago, and breathed a sigh of relief. But it is very light, and my paranoid mind has lead me to wonder if this could be spotting from pregnancy rather than a period. My periods have naturally been this light before, for instance last month, but I still worry about it. I have noticed no other signs of pregnancy. Do you think it is likely that I am ok and this is just a normal (but very light) period? Or should I remain concerned that I still could be pregnant? I realise I sound rather ridiculous in my posts here :-S I don't mean to.