Don't push it. Use your feminine charm on him. Be loving and affectionate with him. Be subtle. If he is the man for you, he will come around. If not, there are plenty of other handsome guys.
sex is the last reason i would stick with a girl... just from the way you worded your questions i can tell you wouldnt be the type of girl i would want to be with.. what keeps me sticking to a woman is there self confidence,there truthfulness,there independence,how down to earth and grounded they are. if a woman is obviously "trying to get me",,its going to be a complete turn off,because in my eyes that shows a lack of all that i stated above in her.
I think it's just a terminology 'get this guy'. I don't think she meant anything by it? As BlondeAngela says, you should try and be relaxed and confident. Remind yourself of your good qualities, let him get to know you, try and show him who you are. I think a good sense of humour is one of the most attractive things in men & women alike. Being confident without being cocky. Hope you 'get him'!
I can't speak for all men but for me. Yes, sex is nice but 24 hours a day it can get little old. So what would make me stick around is the feeling that a woman wants me to stick around. The feeling that she likes me and who I am and the things I do. Someone who makes room for me in their life and tries to make me feel at home, someone who'll tell me from time to time that; it's kind of nice having me around. PS men like to feel useful too.