Hi all.... I've finally got to a point where I don't want to be single anymore. I *need* to be with someone, or I'm going to start going out of my mind. I talk about sex a lot, and how I'd like to have it... and to an extent this is true... but it's not the lack of sex i'm craving.. but the lack of companionship. I've never done this before, but I figure that it might be worth signing up for some of the dating agency websites that are available. I figure that the type of girl I'd like (tech head) would also maybe use such a service. So far I've found one: http://www.wheresmydate.co.uk/ - it seems to provide a fairly good service, and best of all is free. Does anyone else know any other good sites like this? free would be better as I'm a bit poor atm, but if you know of a GOOD pay one, then I might be interested in that also. Thank you.
Yes... alas I'm not a very confident person in real life... I can talk to anyone about anything on the internet.. but trying to meet someone in real life is very scary.
A friend recently brought up the subject of online dating ... I came very close to saying "yeah but it smacks of desperation a bit, doesn't it?" and I'm glad I didn't actually say it because in the next breath he told me he had just signed up for it... I also had to stop myself from saying "but you'll only meet the kind of people who would sign up for online dating services ... bloomin' weirdos". I feel your pain though Dan, I'm always annoyed that it's the brainless, confident, pushy ones who have all the fun while us lovely shy retiring types never get any. (Fun. Ahem.) Cuh, women
I spmetimes think that the more you crave for it the less likely you are to get it. You're more likely to find love when you are totally secure in yourself. When you are really secure in yourself you tend to not want it anyway and that's when you get it. In my experience (I actually designed and built a dating site once, which is now offline) the problem with these is that the men will always outnumber the women by several zillion to one. It's just the nature of the beast. Also look out for cons, they might say 'join for free' but if you want to contact anyone you have to pay for the privilege. I'd say don't do it. The only site I'm on that is half respectable but it isn't really a dating site is faceparty. Well it is and it isn't (it isn't meant to be but things do happen on there), it's actually more of a chat site where you can build a profile and message other members etc. Because of that it has slightly more respectability ... its free but charges for extra features and as far as I know all their profits go to children's charities. Same as all those things though, they tend to attract a lot of nutters.
But that's diffrent yet again... that's someone that I know, a friend I've had for a long time......... We're talking about chatting with random people in randoms bars..... it's so very hard for me to do that..... If someone else maybe introduced me, and i had a nice list of 'conversational topics', then i might be OK... but still....
I realise this... but it's worth a shot no? I was wondering if this site might have something like that.... it didn't... I'm able to search for people, send them messages, etc.. and it's not costing me a penny... it's not even got adverts on the site.. if it starts to charge, then i'll leave, but all the time it's free.... I'll check out the faceparty site, thank you. Well ladies, you heard the man.. anyone out there want to meet up for some drinks so I can learn the way of meeting people.
Use okcupid.com, it's like Faceparty but better. Basically you answer millions of gay ass question, and then you have a profile with an idea of your personality, what yr looking for etc. It can then calculate a percentage for anyone else with a profile on there, for your compatability as matches and just friends. If you're not a total asshole you'll be able to find someone who you can at least talk to. But when you need to be in love, it's the worst time to go looking. Every rejection will be hell, and you're at a high risk of ending up in an emotionally abusive relationship. I know it's hard to accept it when you're feeling isolated, but a relationship is only as good as you felt before you started it.
in my experience( and it is fairly limited) the best way to attract the opposite sex.. is to just have a bit of fun... goto a pub and just have fun with the people your with.. evry1 likes to have fun and if people see you having fun they often assume that you will be a fun person to be with. and then once they have seen you having fun they will be more open to the suggestion of having fun together. fun is definitely the way forward.. if you sit in the corner moping, then evry1 will say " ooo look at mr. mopey", if you goto evry girl in the pub and try it on.. you will be seen and ppl will say " ooo look at mr. overly flirtatious", so best just to have fun. well thats my advice anyway
i'm in the same kinda predicament aswell. but the trouble is theres a certain age when all your friends have got married and had kids etc so there's no one to go out with. plus most ladies my age are all married and grown up. most depressing.
I have met people online, so far, nothing has been majickal....I signed up for eharmony once, adn was heartbroken when they sent me an email that said no one in the 1,000,000 plus people on the site matched me...boohoo! Still waitin for mr perfect.
why not go to chat rooms instead? my dad met his girlfriend on ICQ and they have been together for three years now. she lives in Ireland and he lives just outside London but flies over every six weeks and is going to live with her soon. He wasn't looking for love, it just found him, but he is the best girlfriend he ever had. why not go to a chatroom of something that interests you coz then you'll meet someone you have something in common with, for example, if it was me, i love juggling, so i'd go to a chat room and if i found someone there who i quite liked then i'd say do you want to meet up for a bit of club passing or something, and then take it from there. i believe it is possible to find love on the net, coz i've seen it with my own eyes, but dating agencies might not be the way to go, it might be better just to find someone with a common interest. hope that helps, and good luck. peace and love stardust xxx
god dont say stuff like that.. by the time i get back from travelling im gonna be about 28.. does that mean im gonna be left on the shelf and not gettin any too... dammit.. oh well thai bride here i come.
