i think there's something wrong with my clit! it's just not as sensitive as it used to be. when my boyfriend and i have sex, it takes forever for me to cum, involving much concentration on my part! then, my orgasms aren't as strong as they once were. i'm not sure why this is... even masturbating isn't as satisfying. i'm only 21, but i've heard that increases/decreases in estrogen can have an effect on clitoral sensitivity. and i'm on a birth control pill... anyone have any ideas?
on E? no i don't think so...i've only done it once and it was kinda all a blur. but maybe i shall! as for focusing on the clit too much - maybe we are, but that's the only way i can cum.
no that's not what i was gonna say... i know women who have had sex on ex a few times, and now are not able to get wet no matter what type of stimulation they receive..so i was actually gonna say becareful since you haven't then i dont know sorry
That's too bad. Maybe you should be backing off that for a while, I had something like that happen to me as well, we ended up not having sex for other reason for 6 months - after that it was amazing though. I'm sure you wouldn't have to resort to that, but if you can find another way to cum in the meantime or if he can put it off long enough to not have to consecrate and just let it cum about lol
The doctor told my wife that after she had her tubes tied, that she might lose all sexual stimulation. Not sure if that meant her clit, but she does seem to take longer to cum when I go down on her.
Green Hell, there can be many different reasons. Temporary hormonal changes are your most secure bet. Have you been on the pill for a long time? Also, exogenous stresses can lower the libido in a serious way (do you have social or psychological troubles?) Finally, it's rare for this to be a physiological problem but your blood circulation and vascular health could have something to do with it. Are you a smoker? But then, you're way too young to have this type of problem. In any case, I especially wouldn't focus on it too much. Have sex without thinking of the "duty" to cum. You don't always have to cum, and trying too much can make you numb.
I would suggest that you and your man ignore your clit for a while. Sometimes the clit becomes almost numb after prolonged stimulation. So, take a week or two off (no touchies!) and see if that helps. If not, have him rub your g-spot and clit at the same time slowly and gently, while your hips/butt are lifted on a couple pillows. Good luck, and try not to stress over this....most women know exactly how you feel.
I have the same problem, except mine has been going on for years. I can orgasm just as fast - real fast, but the orgasms are only half as strong. For years I had sex with incredible orgasms. Now for the past 4 years they are only half as good. I wish I could figure this out.
I notice them about myself sometimes too. It seems to happened when I am extremely stressed out. I don't know why. It always goes back to normal for me, though.
