i put this in the plain love and sex forum, and normally i'm really annoyed when people the same thread twice in different places, but i need some advice. okay. long story but ill try to shorten it up as much as i can. theres this guy that ive been friends with through this past school year, that i've had a crush on. one day he came to me for girl advice and which i gave and he took, ending up with him leaving one girl for another. (his feelings changed and what not) well in like march i drunk texted him (great i know) and spilled the beans about my thinking he's sexy and id fuck him and all that wonderful stuff you don't want your crush to know (or tell them when you are drunk). well we get to school and he's talking to me about it and doesnt seem to mind. but then i remembered wait hes got a girlfriend hes smitten with. so i like back off but he's drunk texted me a few times. our conversations got really sexual, so much that it carried on into school and being with friends. a few times here in the past couple weeks we've called each other before getting off just becuase we know that its something the other likes to hear/be a part of. anyways, i'm ramblingish. sorry. going on, he told me he wants to meet up when he comes home from visiting his girlfriend in a couple weeks (she lives out of town). should i go for this becuase i really want to, or what? i mean besides the fact he's cheating and we both know it's wrong, i can't get him out of my head. i just keep thinking what if she found out... i mean i have a conscience. i wouldn't care either way, i mean sure probably in the long run i'll feel horrible at myself for letting myself be used like that, but he's just so godd damn sexy. right now i don't care. sometimes i'm just like 'oh i'm young, these things happen' but am i pushing things telling myself that? yeah i will probably feel horrible about it, but then again what if (god and i hate to say this) i end up being the other woman. like he would have 2 girlfriends. somehow i dont really care... but that puts me just as at fault as him. GOD WHAT IS WRONG WITH MEE? i hate her when ive never even met her, just becuase she has him. my best friend has told me to just go for it. im just asking, what would you guys do?
well you can go for it and im sure yall will have some good sex and bla bla bla. but as far as relationship, if he's will do it to her, he will do it to you. so, if you know you wont be in a relationship with him in future, then have sex with him
I think it depends on how you really feel about him. Is it purely sexual tension? If so, maybe hooking up would help release some of that tension. You can both have enjoyable sex and feel satisfied. But if you think you might be into him on a deeper level, then I would not go for it. What happens if you guys hook up and then he never wants to hook up again? Or, what if he does want to continue hanging out, but only for sex. If he stays with his girlfriend and your feelings for him grow into something more complex than just a "fuck buddy" you might get really hurt in the end. I've been in almost the exact situation before, years ago. I ended up having the hugest crush on him and wanted him to like me back (for more than sex) SO BADLY, but it never happened. Every time I saw him with his arms around his girlfriend or had to hear him tell her he loved her, it killed me inside! Just be careful.. always look out for number one!
That sounds like a lot of shallow infatuation.. frankly I'd say just void the whole thing and put him out of mind, but thats me.. it'd probably save your conscious
