Not planning on marriage and having kids

How many other women out there plan to NEVER marry and have kids...never. I'm one of those women, I like kids, just don't want any plus I rather have cats. I'm like those parents that are heartbroken if they can't have kids, I would be heart broken if I could never have cats.

 

i don't like children, marriage - why??? i like my freedom, i like having no holds on me. perhaps i will change my mind, but at the moment i love being 100% independent.
so yes, i am one of those 'unnatural' women who don't want marriage adn children. i find we are most misunderstood, this does not bother me.

peace
morna

 

I don't believe in marriage at all. I mean, if you love someone and live with them, it's essentially the same thing. You can make commitments to each other without going through a ridiculous ceremony where you're supposed to pretend your a virgin and spend way too much money on food and decorations and everything else. If I do ever decide I really want kids (which is doubtful) I'd adopt before giving birth - take in someone who no one else wants

So no, I don't plan on ever getting married or birthing children.

 

I want marriage. I don't want the traditional dressing-in-white, 300 people that you don't know drinking and eating things that you paid for, taking vows you don't mean ceremony. If ever I get married, it will be outside barefooted, with my friend presiding over the ceremony and only my closet friends and family there. It shouldn't be a celebration of money and material items, it's a celebration of a joining of souls....

As far as children, I have my god-daughter. She is enough for me. If one day, I look at my life-mate and decide "I would love another little you running around the planet" then maybe I might decide to have children, but more than likely it will just be myself and my god-daughter. I don't know of many men (of whom I would be interested) who would enjoy an instant family that myself and Gracie would invariably offer.

Holly

 

Yeah, I'm not planning on marriage or kids either. If one day, I change my mind then...whatever, I'll go with it. But right now, I couldn't see myself married, and I couldn't see myself with kids. Marriage is actually a pretty scary thought to me, and kids can be even scarier...lol. I would like to maybe one day live with my boyfriend, and have nieces and nephews...so that I could spend days with them, and then send them back to their parents...haha. But I really love my independence and freedom. I like being able to just get up and go without having to worry about other people. That's just me.

 

I'm not too fond of the thought of marriage. Relationships should happen naturally and promising that you'll be together forever is just bad luck. I used to think I didn't want any children, but lately I've been thinking that I do. Mostly, I want to raise a person who thinks for themselves. Too many parents force their morals and opinions on their children, raising little versions of themselves. I want to be a parent to be a guide, to ask questions of my children to get them to think about what's important to them and what they really think, even if it's differerent from what I think. I like the idea of that kind of challenge, and I like the idea of someone being raised being taught to think for themselves instead of to think like their parents.

 

I think it is horrible to call women who don't want to marry or have children "unnatural". I personally am married and will have children some day. But that is a choice I made. Every woman is entitled to her choice. I would much rather that women who don't want children not have them than bring another unwanted child into the world. I've seen this happen far to often. So I guess what I'm saying is don't get married, don't have children, or do... whatever. Just live your life for you and be happy.

 

im married. although i dont think it's needed.

i didnt want a traditional wedding.. i didnt have one. my husband and i got married in barefeet in an island in the carribean. we only had to plan maybe 3 hours for our wedding...they took care of the rest. we were alone AND the wedding was paid for, for us staying there for a certain amount of time.

as for children, im now 24... i didnt used to want them. i LOVE my freedom. but my maternal instincts are growing stronger and stronger. i really wanna adopt when i get far enough in school....

but NO ONE is abnormal.. fuck the norm. how ever a person feels/whatever a person wants... it's just fine.

 

Well, from a happily married woman and someone who completely adores her children, I couldn't imagine a life without those things. I can totally understand a person's desire to be "free", yet my life felt pretty empty before my family when I look back to my "BK" (before kids") days. My husband and I blew our money on who knows what and did a whole lot of nothing before we had our kids. I always knew I wanted them, he, on the other hand, did not, until we gave birth to our first son. Then he said that he couldn't imagine life without children, and he's an awesome father. We're completely devoted to our children and love them more than words can possibly express.

We have 3 children, two of which are twins, and I would love to have more if we could, but due to severe complications that I had with our twin pregnancy and nearly dying, that's not something that can happen.

Motherhood is hard work, but, in my opinion, worth every single second. I wouldn't trade it for all of the money in the world. Marriage is awesome, the stability, the comfort, but I'm sure it's not as good for some as it is for others. My husband is my best friend, and we have been through a hell of a lot together in the 9 years that we've been together. I feel that our relationship grows stronger with every year, but that's not always the case for others.

As far as wedding goes, we went the very simple route. Justice of the Peace. We had felt married to one another long before that legal piece of paper, but it made things feel more solid for me.

I have absolutely no regrets about getting married and having children. I love it. But it's not for everyone, and if that's not the route you want to take, then there's nothing wrong with that. You're still quite young yet (listen to me, I sound like an old biddy) and you've got many years ahead of you, in which case, you may meet the "right person" and fall deeply, madly, and completely in love and want to create new life together. Bit if not, there's nothing wrong with that either. We're all different. That's what makes us so unique.

Good luck in any path you may choose!

Peace.