okay. long story but ill try to shorten it up as much as i can. theres this guy that ive been friends with through this past school year, that i've had a crush on. one day he came to me for girl advice and which i gave and he took, ending up with him leaving one girl for another. (his feelings changed and what not) well in like march i drunk texted him (great i know) and spilled the beans about my thinking he's sexy and id fuck him and all that wonderful stuff you don't want your crush to know (or tell them when you are drunk). well we get to school and he's talking to me about it and doesnt seem to mind. but then i remembered wait hes got a girlfriend hes smitten with. so i like back off but he's drunk texted me a few times. our conversations got really sexual, so much that it carried on into school and being with friends. a few times here in the past couple weeks we've called each other before getting off just becuase we know that its something the other likes to hear/be a part of. anyways, i'm ramblingish. sorry. going on, he told me he wants to meet up when he comes home from visiting his girlfriend in a couple weeks (she lives out of town). should i go for this becuase i really want to, or what? i mean besides the fact he's cheating and we both know it's wrong, i can't get him out of my head. i just keep thinking what if she found out... i mean i have a conscience. my best friend has told me to just go for it. im just asking, what would you guys do?
i wouldn't. if he hasnt left his girlfriend by now, then this will lead to you having more feelings for him, and maybe even getting hurt.
Wait, I don't understand, do you really like him or do you wanna have strictly sexual relationship with him?...You should ask yourself that and than decide what to do further on....If you really like him you shouldn't just settle with hidden affair because eventually you'll feel used.....
i did like him, but it faded. ya know when you don't see someone for awhile and then one day you see them again and all your feelings come whooshing back at you, that happens with him. i wouldn't care either way, i mean sure probably in the long run i'll feel horrible at myself for letting myself be used like that, but he's just so godd damn sexy. right now i don't care. sometimes i'm just like 'oh i'm young, these things happen' but am i pushing things telling myself that?
you could be. i've done the same thing, and when i got older i realized i hadn't made the best decisions with some things. i've been in a similar situation. i had sex with the person, and felt horrible later on about it. i've meen sure not to make that same mistake again.
yeah i will probably feel horrible about it, but then again what if (god and i hate to say this) i end up being the other woman. like he would have 2 girlfriends. somehow i dont really care... but that puts me just as at fault as him. GOD WHAT IS WRONG WITH MEE? i hate her when ive never even met her, just becuase she has him.
Being other girl is one of the worst things you could do to yourself right now!... I've been in the similar situation and I even haven't been with that guy, we've just spent some time together as friends, but we liked each other and even his girlfriend realized that...I can't tell you how it is to know that no matter what happens with the three of us, he would still be a winner and that he has both of us, but non of us two have him completely..... I don't know if you understood me, I was really chaotic but the thing is that you should go for him only if you wanna use him too, only if you have no feelings for him and you know he couldn't possibly hurt you anyhow.....
I wouldn't do it, if he wants a relationship thats one thing. If he just wants sex tell him to do it with his girlfriend. It isn't fair to you and isn't fair to the other girl.
Have you ever heard of the word polyamory? Sounds like you are a candidate for a different style of relationship model. Most Westerners are steeped in the mindset that if you love someone, you can't possibly love anyone else, unless you are a creep, lowlife scum, etc. But wait.....people who have children do this all the time, don't they? They have one kid, they love it. All is well and right with the world. Then one day, they make another baby and suddenly they have another child to raise. Do they stop loving the first kid just because #2 has arrived? Of course not. And what about #3, or #4, etc? Do they ever stop loving the earlier ones because they have another come into their lives? Not if they are normal parents. The love all of their children, even when they misbehave and give them trouble. They have become family. So....what's the difference between loving children and loving other adults, even intimately? Nothing, except you do certain things with adults that you don't do with children. But its still love, isn't it? Of course. Its just expressed differently It is only a small step to go from loving more than one child to loving more than one adult. Its still love. If you can love more than one child, you can love more than one adult. Its that simple. The complicated part is ridding ourselves of our mono mindset about loving adult relationships. I speak from experience. I am married. I also have a girlfriend. The difference between me and someone who is cheating? My wife and girlfriend both know each other, and they know whats up. There are no secrets, and everything is out in the open as far as the nature of both relationships are concerned. I have a life with my wife. I have a life with my girlfriend. They are both agreeable to it. My wife knows that I am coming home when my weekend with my girlfriend is over. I am not running away from home. Why should I? I love my wife, more now than ever before. We have become closer since my girlfriend came into our lives. Life can be good. But it is work. All relationships that are any good at all were worked on so that they could become good relationships. If you want to be involved with someone who is already involved, you need to have open, honest communication between all parties, enough to ensure that all parties are satisfied that no one is hiding things. They are all in this together, even though there may not be any major involvement between one of the parties and another. The relationship could have a "V" configuration in the scenario I describe. Thats what I have with my two ladies. We communicate well with each other, and there is no jealousy. If we are tempted to be jealous, we discuss it and deal with it, and keep things above board. Life can be good. It ain't cheating if you have permission! If you want to know more, go to www.polyamory.org David in Miami
Which is better....having 50% of a really great guy, or 100% of a total jerk? You decide... David in Miami
its important that you dont do something you arent 100 % into. i had sex with a guy, and i wasnt 100% sure i really wanted to be doing it. consequently the sex was shit and i hated myself afterwards. if it doesnt feel completely right, dont do it. not even a little bit
This guys sounds like a ****. I'll say this, if you wanna have sex with someone else you should had least fucking break up with the person you are already with....unless unless you have an open relationship thing going on or something.
