of caring about other people. (not family related of course) I can be a nice person and help people out if they need it.. but when it comes to deep down, really really caring, I can't do it. maybe my heart is cold, or maybe I fear that I'll care too much. and be let down. anyone else (I'm assuming single people) have this problem?
I'm not single but I can relate. For me it's sometimes if I allow myself to care so much for someone, when I'm not sure at that point if they will leave me or stay with me or hurt me.... then I'm opening myself up to a world of hurt that I don't know if I can handle.... It can be a VERY scary feeling. But really caring and love and all are such wonderful things that I truly believe the risk involved is worth it. (just gotta tell yourself that if you get hurt, you'll be okay and the pros beat the cons)
I'm not worried about being hurt at all, I've been hurt througout my entire life and yes it's painful but I can't stop caring for those who are close to me (most of which are not family related). I have a problem with caring too much to where I want no harm, sadness or nothing to invade their lives, I'd take the brunt of anything or everything so they wouldn't or won't have too. I don't care at all about myself or what happens to me, but for people who are close to me I care so deeply for them and not in a "love" sort of way but more as a deep bond. Being afraid to care for someone or anyone doesn't mean you have a small heart or are cold, not at all, you are just scared of being hurt or rejected or any bad feelings. If you don't open yourself up to being hurt you will miss out on so much I think. Don't be afraid of being hurt, don't let that interfere with your life, people get hurt, it happens, but you always learn or take something away from it. I don't know if this is making sense, but don't feel as though you are a horrible person because you are scared to expose your heart and yourself to others.
caring about your fellow man is a wonderful quality, one that I constantly work at and try to cultivate in myself. I believe it to be one of the most basic things necessary for a better world. yes, you will be hurt - pain is a huge part of life. but it will be worth it for the times when you save someone else from their pain through your love, or you form a strong bond of friendship, or whatever. wouldn't you rather have love in your heart than fear?
I have this problem too. For me it comes from being burned one too many times by people and situations you've cared about. I still very often catch myself caring about things deeply though.
i care for ppl if they are in troublei will help without even thinking about it but when i was 12 i moved to another country for some reason i never ever miss t anyone at all,year and up would go by but nor my family nor my frieands i woud miss and lately i notest that i dont seem to love a singal soul in this world i just like some of them so fucking weird.
