I don't expect any particular feed back. It's just been really really horrible and depressing. He was a truly amazing person, and I don't ever want to replace him.
Yeah. It's just the matter of having someone seeming love you so deeply and unconditionally for 2 and a half years - then suddenly not. He has depression as well, bad. He was always really great in spite of it, but he thought I didn't care about him when he went though episodes. I wouldn't care so much, except he felt me for things that weren't true.
Thanks It's a really sucky situation. I don't even understand, we tried to be friends, but he almost seemed as if he had a lot of left over baggage that prevented any of our conversations from staying civil. Now he hasn't talked to me for about a week. He did tell me one of his friends died. I hadn't met them. It was a friend of his that he'd know for many years and he'd talked a lot about, I tried to let him know that I really cared and I told him I'd started crying when he told me (which I did, although I'd never met the friend I knew the kind of impact they'd made on his life) and he took it as undermining his saddness... I spent the rest of the conversation trying to correct that - he was really mad though, I was just try thing to be there.
I know your pain and heartache. My Ex-fiance and me had been togather for 11 yrs. Since high school. So I know. It has been alittle over 5 months now. Just hang in there time will heal. I know. Hope it all works out for you.
Thanks. I'm sorry for you as well. I don't know exactly how things diteriorated as quickly as they did between us, but I just wish I could be his friend now. I either want to be there for him when he comes back for me, or sit in the front row of his wedding. He's a truly amazing person and I just wish there was a way to make him believe I care and am not just in this for myself.
i conpleatly understand altho with me, i wasnt married, or to be married. i was wid the guy for nearly two yrs.... i wanna be friends, but we fight alot and theres still a lot of feelings there on my end.... and i think maybe on his altho i'm not intierly (sorry forgotten how to spell it) certain seeing as hes being the typical male and not expanding on his feelings.
Yeah, see he has depression and so he was very emotional and thought I was neglecting that. I can understand, I did care but I had gotten pretty jaded from dealing with the cycle over and over again, not to mention that when I did try helping he made it very clear that there was nothing at all I could do to help him. I can understand that, but when there's nothing I can do what am I supposed to try to do?
Okay. So. Since all of this I have gotten a new boyfriend. It feels really quick to me - it was a little over 2 months later, but after 2 years - but it's felt really right as well. He knows my situation and most of my initial respect for him came from the fact that after I explained my remaining feelings for my ex-fiance he was more than willing to be there and make his feelings continued to be known. My faith in relationships is still very shaken, but I am hoping this will work out in the long term. I am happy.
Yellowlyric, my fiance whom I dated since high school for almost 5 years just came out and told me she's leaving me to meet girls. It's only been two weeks and she's already hooked up with one and meeting a lot more soon. It's funny, she has girls all over her and I can't seem to find one for the life of me. I'm a small guy... 5'7" and I only weigh like 130 lbs. I don't think I'm really woman material haha. Why do they always wait until the engagement to walk out? Maybe it's just the pressure... ehh.
well im sorry that this had t happen for the both of you. people get scared or nervous and dont want to do it. they may like the IDEAL of it but when it comes to the point, they run off. I ran myself, I had a ring on in may about to make that commitment until i got scared and ran. im glad that you have a new boyfriend now though, keep things extremely slow and make sure all those emotions are gone. kmarcher- theres plenty of girls in chicago- one being myself- I know its hard to move on in your situation but its okay to. 5'7 and 130 lbs dont mean a thing to a real woman keep your head up boy
5'7" and 130 sounds about my type I'm sorry that happened to you. That can be a real blow to the ego I'm sure. It's really too bad, I have nothing at all against gays, but I have seen a couple of families torn apart after a spouse comes out after years of marriage and children and it's always really unfortunate for everyone involved. At least it wasn't a divorce I guess, right? All your things are still yours on the bright side I don't know how else to comfort that
Thanks. Yeah, at first I told my boyfriend (Jon for the sake of not repeating "boyfriend" too many times), that I didn't really want another relationship but that I appreciated him coming to me about his feelings. I didn't want to unload all my recent baggage onto him and although I've known him for several years I didn't really know how well a relationship would work out. That was around the beginning of July? I think. I decided I really did want to date him and we officially started "dating" on the 27th. It's been really great actually. He's taking our relationship very seriously (and I am too since I don't really dig the whole "casual dating" scene), and although we've talked about taking things very seriously later on I'm glad that he wants to put off anything for a long while. So yeah Things have been going very well.
I do understand that. That's the same way I feel. I want the compassion and companionship from a relationship... but I don't want to be with anyone else. I don't think I've felt this unattractive in my whole life, as well.
