I need a womans opinion please.

Ok this is my first post and I am not to sure if this is the right place to ask[if this is the wrong place then I am sorry.]Like the title says I need a womans opinon on something.I recently was dumped by my girlfriend about a month ago.The reason for this was I was to''Old Fashion''believe it or not.

I am the age of 18 and I believe in the facts that the man should protect the woman at all cost,now with this being said I did not smother her and wrap her in bubble wrap,but I was there for her when she needed me.I noticed that alot of guys my age seem to have one thing on there mind and that is sex and being with as many woman as possible[I am not saying all,but there are the ones out there].

Anyway back to the point.I am 18 and I just have strong beliefs about how the man is suppose to protect and make the woman happy no matter what,I am strongly against men putting there hands on woman and I want to pursue a career in helping families that need help and woman who have been abused.

The problem is not that she dumped me but I sometimes think that maybe just maybe I seem to take it alittle to far.Like I really can't stand seeing the stuff in real life on but I also hate seeing woman get hurt and what not in the likes of movies games and other forms of media.Alot of my friends call me crazy sometimes but this is how I truly feel,I feel that the man should take care of his family and support them,not hurt them or exploit,so am I abit crazy or what?Thank you for reading this long rant lol.I just needed some opinions on myself.

 

As a woman, I think it is noble of you to want to protect your girlfriend. That is something I look for in a man, but only if it doesn't cross a line. If I feel like my independence is being threatened I might not react favorably. Also, protection from my guy is great, but only if the situation allows. I am strong and intelligent person, and I am capable of taking care of myself and watching my own back. With that said it always makes me feel better when I am on a crowded street in Chicago for example, and he grabs my arm and pulls me closer to him. Thats priceless. Look for someone else. Maybe she wasn't the girl for you. There are other fish in the sea dude

 

Oh I know woman can take care of themselfs,like I said I was not watching over her like hawk,but I just feel this way.Like I said alot of my friends look at me weird cause they figure that i should be out partying in up with tons of woman[not that I attract that many]and trust me I know how to have fun,but like you said she was not the one for me.I just feel that there are not enough good men in this world any more,evertime I hear a man say man law this or man law that I want to knock them out[and I did get in a fight with a guy who kept telling his woman that she was worthless]I took a beating from the guy but in was all worth it cause in the end I told her that she was not worthless,and he was just a jerk.Thanks for your reply

 

you're sweet. she wasn't the girl for you. you'll find someone that appreciates you one day.
that's all there is to it.

 

well I think you are right. there are a lot of men that have been conditioned by society to treat women that way. we need more men who don't see it as "us and them". it is important that people try to transcend gender roles and see each other instead as people. human. connected. men that see women as less are caught in a cycle of ego. that is negative karma. you are gaining positive karma. it is noble of you to endure pain to help another human being.

 

my daughter had a boyfriend like you and he was sweet but had issuses about being friends with his ex and making my daughter sit with the ex at the prom. so even being treated like a princess and being protected it didn't work because of other problems. good luck finding an old fashion girl.

 

that's sweet.
it's hard to find guys like that now.
most of them just want in our pants.
i think it's awesome that you feel like that.
:]

 

It sounds like she was crazy honestly. I can't imagine. I had an amazing boyfriend who was like that, it sounds like as long as you aren't actually underestimating how protective you're being or something that you're doing it all right.

 

She left you, sounds like you should give her a smack.

 

I think we're talking about the two extremes of a relationship here:abusive partners and the opposite, [over]protective partners. I truly believe that there is a happy medium between the two.

I dated a guys a few years ago that seems a lot like you...at least as you've described yourself. He was SO nice, always opened the door etc...all that old-fashioned stuff.(not that it's bad) He NEVER argued with me...always agreed. He was great, and we are still friends today. Here lays the problem, IT WAS BORING! For me, and I'm sure a lot of other girls would agree, it is fun to be treated like a queen from time to time, but after a while of it, it becomes a little irritating, at least for me. I pride myself on being strong and independent, and I like to argue (in good fun) sometimes, and being treated like a spoiled little princess starts to feel a little demeaning.

There have been times when I've really appreciated the kindness though. Like this past winter, I went to a formals with one of my friends. It was icy and I had heels on so he made sure to walk right next to me (he knows I tend to be clumsy) and open the door for me. He brought me whatever drinks I wanted all night and was really really nice. He didnt have to do any of it, but he did and I def. appreciated it. But the reason I liked it so much was that it was TOTALLY unexpected, and the next day we went back to being great friends who joked around etc.

I guess what I'm saying in all this is that there is a time for chivalry and there isnt. Sure, a guy should NEVER hit his partner, but who says they have to be nice and agreeable and do whatever the woman wants or needs all the time. So don't be afraid to disagree sometimes, don't hover..and have fun. If the girl loves you or even cares about you she isn't going to up and leave at the sign of the first disagreement.

sorry i rambled so much...hope it helped a little

 

Oh see I am not the type of person who sits on pins and needles waiting for what the woman wants,I mean if she does need something I am there for her.I just meant that it makes me sick that men would do some of the things that they tend to do to woman these days.Believe me I know that woman can take care of them selfs I know that.

I took care of her and made her happy[or so I thought lol]but is is all good.I thank you all for your replies.Like I said some of my other friends[who are older and some the same age]find it funny that I act like this.Maybe I seen to many hero movies as a kid and just wanted to be like them.

 

Awe lol

It sounds like you just need to fine the right one. Treating women right is never a bad thing, I think too many women forget there are lots of men who need to be treated right as well.