Well Thank you all for your advice and support it made me feel much better about my choice and the situation. As for the boyfriend thing he saw where i was coming from for the first time today. He left with his friends with a sac of weed and had rolled a j in front of me before leaving. For some reason or another when he returned he had backed out of smoking and just had a talk with his friends giving the weed to them. SO everything is good and I think things are going to be ok Thanks again everyone and for the reply we always keep things in a peaceful manner thats one thing i honestly love about me and his relationship