So I am 6 weeks preganant and i choose to stop smoking weed atleast until the baby is born. Even then i won't smoke unless the baby is with its grandparents or being watched for a few hours. So only on occasion. My problem is around here that is pretty much all we do is smoke. Now that I cant smoke my boyfriend leaves me home alone to go smoke all the time. We are very young so in a way i can understand but ive asked him repeatedly to stop with me so it will be easier for me not to want to smoke out of boredom and missing friends. Mainly i just want him to show a little bit of respect. At one point out of anger i told him that if he keeps smoking like he is then im just going to start smoking again while pregnant. I thought maybe he wouldnt want to risk the babys health (as i do and the reason why i quit for the time being) but instead he choose to still smoke and say oh well the baby will be fine...I dont know what to do or if im just being overly sensitive to me it makes me feel tho that he cares more about himself smoking then he does the well being of our child and then on top of this he has asked me to marry him...i said yes...but since that day i have had my doubts if i should have and if i should go thru with the marriage...does anyone have any advice or just opinions i would appreciate it alot...
aww honey, that sounds like quite the situation you've got there. I've never been in the same shoes, but if you're having doubts, you should probably go with your gut. Maybe you could just tell him that it's moving to quickly, and you want to wait until the baby is there and see how things are going. As for the smoking thing, I can't imagine how hard that is. Maybe you could ask him to try and cut back for you (men hate changing completely), and maybe you could try and hang out with him and your friends and just not smoke. You're doing the right thing for the health of your baby, so good for you, and if he can't do the right thing for you, then maybe he doesn't deserve you. Good luck, I'm sure everything will be fine
im 3months and i smoke bud....NOT ALL THE TIME PEOPLE! ONLY WHEN IM REALLY SICK! Only my husband when he smokes and im not smokin he goes else where, even with a cig.
another chick trying to make a responsible daddy out of a pothead, lol. hon, if he doesn't wanna do it, he isn't gonna. you're supposed to talk about these things before you get pregnant.
and lillyrain i know its tough, TRUST me, but be strong you're doing the right thing in terms of avoiding the stuff right now. I wish i had advice for you, but I'm sorry I can only give you my support!
because I want you to be smart about the health of your future child and if I really wanted to be an ass I'd correct you on your grammar mistake
Wait.. I'm not saying its okay to smoke weed while your pregnant but it has shown to do some help with women who do get overly sick during their pregnancy. btw, keep things peaceful..
I would also like to add, that sometimes just cutting back on ciggies rather than totally quitting is sometimes better. Because if you weren't planning on getting pregnant and didn't have time to quit beforehand, some dr's say its better to just cut back than to quit because that can be harder on the baby due to the stress on the momma of quitting. But obviously it is best to not smoke. I just don't think we should judge each other in here. Play it nice. Offer advice, don't scold. Peace
Two things....You are giving up pot for a few months. As you should in my boorish opinion. A few months......Really, put that in perspective. Its really *not* an issue relative to the other ones in your life. Also, I hope your boyfriend still has motivation after all his puffage...supporting a family is no joke...lots of work, very draining. Reality slaps hard ! Best wishes on your new family and future
