Hello, I find myself in a dilemma, I have only posted here once before in the topic of a sexual fantasy in regards to having sex with a man (I am male myself and consider myself heterosexual). The thing is that I have been single all my life and at the age of 28 I am starting to notice it more now then before. I have never been a social person, and I have some social problems like spending nearly all my time alone, sometimes I can go for days without talking to someone. This has been on and off for like the last 14 years now, sometimes it doesn`t bother me that much but now the lack of an intimate relationship is slicing me up from the inside. I have on some occations thought about going to a prostitute before but I have always let the moral part of me prevail, since I am a virgin and that I think\thought that it would be a kind of defeat to lose my virginity to a prostitute after all these years in selebacy (spelling). However now I am serioulsy starting to have second thoughts and I try to sort out for\against in relation to actually go and see one. I am a person who is very sensitive to physical thouch and I have not had much intimacy in my life, I know I tend to idealize women and have done so for a long time and now I start to see the possibility to see a prostitute as something that may make me overcome some of my fears and I will get to know how I react primarily to the physical intimacy and just being with a woman. With all the problems I have had (depression, suicidal thinking etc) I have to admit that I am about to fall apart, not in relation to suicide but because I want to experiance intimacy. I could of course try to go out and hit on women, going for a one night stand or even more, but my lack of sexual experiance is a part (though not the whole reason) of why I can`t get myself to do it. I know very well that if I would go to a prostitute it would be a mostly pure physical thing, as in the absence of love, commitment etc that one would have with someone you would love, though of course I might actually think a prostitute would have a more clear understanding of my situation then many other women since I assume they see all kinds of men for all kinds of reasons. Deep inside me I really want to, soon the only thing that talks against it is my moral about losing my virginity to a prostitute. Though on a more humorous note it may be better this way then losing it while being dead drunk at a party. The benefit for me is that I would probably met a non-judgmental woman that would from a pure sexual point of view for sure know what she is doing.
I belive you should give socializing a try. For a couple of weeks, go out meet some friends, try to do things you wouldn´t normally do on usual days. If it works all the better, if it doesn't well, then maybe you're right... A man's first time does give him some more confidence (altough this usually happens in earlier stages in life), so pherhaps you will succed later? Anyhow, I would try the regular way first, with a new more open minded aproach and if that failed, then prostitues it is...
Escorts, if you're gay you can go for male escorts. High priced hookers basically but from what I hear it's much safer in the health department than just any street walker.
Yes I would for sure go to an escort service and stay away from the street prostitutes for several reasons couse I know that many escorts are not forced into prostitution or being a victim of trafficing etc, and there is also the STD. The places I have in my mind all look nice and are VAT registered etc. And it`s all about the women, the male thing I refered to is an added sexual fantasy so to speak
Thanks for your reply, yes I know I have tended and still do Idealize women, though not as much as I used to. I mentioned the "dread drunk party" part as in I believe it would be better to go to a prostitute then having an experience like that as my first time so thats ok I will try to force myself to go out more frequently for a period now in the beginning at least and I will see what happens, though I`m not ignoring the thought about going to see a prostitute as I am more open to it now then before, but as I said I will give myself some time to go out now in the near future.
Well I imagine I wouldn`t be the first one if so.. By the way what is so funny about it ? Based on your writing you appear to be like 14 years old.
I don't think sleeping with a whore is all that degrading. Also, as far as high school and early college girls go, they might have only had sex with a few men and then one night decides to screw around. Just fucking an extremely wasted girl is pretty low but there's plenty of girls who just get turned on after a few cocktails and going to the party intend to just let off some steam. In the end if you want to get laid, nowadays it's easier than ever.
come on now, i'm not really ne better than average looking & i thought getting laid my first time at 20 was late in life. & i've always had pretty high standards.. if you really want to get laid you shouldn't have to pay for it.. just lower your standards. but if you can't do that & you have the money laying around, then by all means (get two at the same time or something)..
Hehe thats fine, I just reacted to your choice of words thats all I know what you mean, and probably all people would tell me to get laid one way or the other, I`m getting closer so to speak but I have to see what I will do.
chea Im the same way im anti-social im fuckin nuts I have thoughts of poppin myself or poppin the cops violent thoughts sometimes i think i hear voices that scare me into thinking some spirit is speaking from beyond the grave even tho i am athiest I dont believe in any bs religion I havent been in a relation ship for years and the last one was a lyin smut the one before that was my high school sweetheart for 7 years that dumped me Im still mad fucked up from that I flip on people I get so mad that I just curse or throw shit or break stuff and I temporarily dont care about the consequence until later I try to self medicate but I have no insurance so I buy drugs on the street but nothing is able to fix me marijuana has too much anxiety paranoia i hate coke it goes too fast I like acid once in a while but no matter how much i take I cant have a profound trip and see shit 3 hits wont make me hallucinate I like opiate painkillers but they blow thorough my money which leads to more depression about not having any money Xanax sometimes helps other times it makes me act beligerant was on prozac in my teens but didnt help plus i could get my rocks off so no to the prozac I been workin wit girls once in a while whores...... Sometimes i wonder if I will ever get married or have kids or if I will die soon from some std or deadly combination of drugs..... I never really told anyone this stuff but I just wanted to let you know that youre not alone, everybody is fucked up... I wish i could be one of the shiny happy people too but truth is I'd rather bash a guy's teeth in for lookin at me..... but to answer your question I think now is definitely the time to work wit a chick look on craigslist under services erotic and you will find something reasonable... wear a condom and do it..... why the fuck not?
