Hi all, I've always been a huge fan of anal porn and I'm wanting to try it with my current girlfriend, I've just started using finger's during oral and doggy but the other day whilst doing that she felt pain. Now what I would like to know is; is this down to not enough lubricant? as it only hurt when I stopped going backwards and forwards, or is this down to not enough preperation? like getting her relaxed or whatnot. I'm not an expert on the matter but I made sure I was taking it slow and I'm confused as to why it would of been painfull when I haven't just rammed it in. I really want to get to the point where i can have full anal sex but doubt I will get to if i keep hurting her! Thankyou!
1. You can never have too much lube. 2. Never commence anal with the penis. Always loosen the rectal muscles beforehand by gently inserting first 1 finger, then after moving the finger in & out, as if it were the penis having sex, move on to 2 fingers as the ring becomes more relaxed, then, depending on the girth of your penis, move on to 3 fingers. 3. Once the anus becomes accustomed to accepting the the number of fingers equivalent to the girth of your penis, apply more lube to the anus, both inside & out, as well as all along the head & shaft of your penis & very gently & slowly push forward. It may even be preferable for your partner to start by taking the upper position & lowering themselves onto your penis. Once the head is fully penetrated, the rest is usually fairly straightforward. It's also advisable to add more lube at regular intervals.
