Bi fiance interested in experimenting

So my fiance is bi. We've been dating for close to 4 1/2 years and have been engaged for a few months.

Only a few days ago she was browsing on craigslist and found a cute girl that she wants to hook up with.

Now she's never even kissed a girl but she says she's really attracted to them and has asked me in the past if it would bother me. I never knew exactly what to say so it always came out like, "umm, that's kind of odd, I don't know I suppose I can't give you an experience like that so I guess not." I never thought she was serious.

So a couple days ago she tells me she's been emailing this girl and she wants to hook up and mess around sometime. This is something she's never done and always wanted to do so I'd feel selfish if I told her no but at the same time it makes me really sad to think about her with someone else, guy or girl.

She claims that she will just experiment and that will be the end of it. But to me it seems like playing with fire. Can she really be sure that nothing more serious will become of this?

Part of me really wants her to have this experience. I want to see her happy and to be able to finally know what it's like. But another part of me feels sort of betrayed.

I suppose I'm just looking for some feedback.

It's not like she's stopped having sex with me, she always tells me how attracted she is to me and guys in general but she really likes girls too.

 

Hm, if this doesn't feel right to you then don't do it. It will come back later to bite you in the ass when you feel like shes cheated on you even though you gave her permission.

 

^^^ agreed. you really want to give her permission to go fuck someone else? gender doesnt matter, she still wants to fuck someone else. unless y'all want an open relationship, i dont think thats a great choice

 

is she asking for your approval, or does she seem determined to do it with or without your consent?

 

No, she wants my approval, she told me she won't do it if I tell her not to.

 

Is she willing to let you fuck other people?
If not then you should tell her that you are against it.

 

I say you let her do it.. Maybe she'll love it, maybe she'll hate it - if so, yay for you!! Nothing to worry about..

But if you don't let her do it, she may feel like you don't accept her in entirety.. Or her fantasy could become so built up in her mind that she'll feel compelled to do it in real life.. and she won't feel comfortable talking to you about it, because you already said no.. then you get cheated on..

just possible scenarios..

 

If she gets to fuck other people, then so should you. Even if you guys decide to have a n open relationship, it still can cause problems later. You have to keep it strictly sexual and remember that you love and trust each other. OR it will never work