I just had a question regarding the female orgasm and was hoping to hear some of your experiences. Firstly, I'd like to give you guys some background information about me: I have had 2 serious(ish) relationships that I have been involved with sexually. The first girl had orgasms from manual and oral stimulation and there was never any issues. My second girlfriend, sadly, was one who never had an orgasm even from masturbation. I tried not to let it bother me however it did. Anyways, I just got a new girlfriend who can orgasm from masturbation. Last night was our first real sexual experience and I was fingering her. This is her first sexual experience with anyone and I was the first person to see her naked. She was extremely self conscious and very very very nervous she says. Anyways, short story short, she couldn't orgasm. What I am wondering is can nervousness affect an orgasm? Anything I can do?
yes nervousness can do that too a girl first time i was with my gf she didnt have an orgasm either but when she gets comfortable being with you things should change you just need to get her to loosen up. it may take a couple of trys but just be patient with her.. as for helping talk dirty and really get her turned on before you do anything that should help some
Thanks for the reply. That actually makes me feel a lot better. I guess this is a big thing for her seeing as it is her very first experience ever. I hope things get better.
Another question: would nervousness affect how wet a female will be? For example, she starts off really wet but dries up because she is nervous?
Keep the foreplay going, in fact penetration isn't everything, just keep going with the foreplay, don't expect miracles at first. In time she will get used to you, so be caring, loving and kind. Build her trust. Despite what most people seem to think real genuine orgasm is very hard to achieve. Most people seem to have this idea, that women can have an orgasm like putting a key in a lock and its starts. Its not like that, you have to put some much effort into it and even then you may fail repeatedly. Persistence and determination are omnipotent.
its possible but some girls just are not able to stay wet that long but thats why man discovered the lube... does wonders
Yea, nervousness can also put a damper on her wetness. Like said before, keep foreplay going, dirty talking does wonders just like lube. GL
It does wonders for you but what about her ? There is an underlying issue that needs to be dealt with. Orgasm has to be a win/win not a win/lose. Achieving orgasm not only feels incredibly good for a women its feels incredibly good for the man. Thats why its worth the effort to get a women to orgasm.
Thanks for the advice. Do any of you have some advice as to what I can do? I'm new(ish) to this and would love to hear some pointers for fingering her. She said she's not comfortable with oral sex so I believe that is out of the picture. I'm thinking I should start by kissing and slowly rubbing her all over. Perhaps take off clothing and tickle her body, slowly making my way to her genital area. I can then start by teasing her at first then I will begin by rubbing her pussy. I don't know.. shit..
Jeff Foxworthy said it best. 'Men are light bottle rockets. Fwwwist...ooo...ahhh... Women are more like diesel engines. They take a while to warm up, but they can run a long LONG time.' Another thing, women's sexuality is a more 'in their head' than 'in their crotch' thing. It's tied up with making them feel safe, accepted, understood. Before you get anywhere in a woman's bed, you've got to get into her head. But, once you get her mind going, get her safe, and secure, and accepted, you'll be surprised to find that often you're not leading her, but she's dragging you along for the wild ride. good luck and hope this was helpful, and if any girls here want to gainsay me, have at. I'm definitely open to learning more about what women tick.
