My girlfriend and I had reached the point that we wanted to have sex with each other a few months ago. We spent a long time building up to it and we were both finally ready. She is a virgin, but I'm not. So when we tried it... there was a problem. I mean, I'd fingered her before that... but I was the first person (including herself) to ever put anything in her vagina. So it was a totally new experience for her. But anyway... when we tried to actually have sex, I couldn't get my penis in. It was like I was just hitting a wall. And we're relatively sure her hymen is broken, but still, no matter how much lube we used, and no matter how much she got turned out, we couldn't get it to go in. We tried a couple more times after that, but no success. Since then, things have gone downhill sexually. She feels like she can't get off unless there's internal stimulation (like from my finger or a dildo) but she says that whenever we put something in there, it hurts as we take it out. So we haven't really been doing a whole lot of intimate stuff these past few months. This really sucks. And she wants to satisfy my, but she's starting to say that she feels obligated to do it and that turns her off... and she says that she wished it worked because now she feels like she's broken or messed up somehow. I love her and I wouldn't leave her over something like this... I just really wish we could move past it because it's causing a lot of tension and frustration. Have any of you ever experienced this? What did you do about it?
It sounds like she really tenses up when your penis goes near her vagina. Try to get her to loosen up a but. Have her take a drink or two before sex or puff a little weed. Is your penis hard enough to enter her?
Is it maybe that you don't want to hurt her, because the anatomy of a womens vigina is ment to stretch. What kind of lube are you using? It could also be that. If you are using a warming or flavored that could be the case. It should be able to go ing. Do you try pushing as hard as you can? How big are you?
i know a woman who had the same problems. and she found out that her vigina was just to small. so she went to the doc and the doc made her go into physical theripy for it. (not sure what they did there)...but after a month or so of that she was able to have sex. .... you also said you had to use lube. is she not wet enough?....if its not something simple like that or any of the other questions asked before me. i would have her go to the doctor. or planned parenthood. I know planned parenthood in washington has free check ups and paps. they might be able to help. (hrista
