doing it for the right reasons this time

so i had my dreads for like 2 weeks last year and combed them out for the STUPIDEST reason possible... a guy i was sleeping with mentioned i looked better without them, and then in a panic a few days later i freaked out and decided i wanted to be "normal", so i combed them out, and actually about a month later cut my hair pretty short... it's just down past my ears now.

thankfully, SINCE then, i've got a lot more self-confidence and i guess self-assuredness... naturally i asked my lover what he'd think of them and he very honestly replied that he likes me for who i am and could care less what i do with my hair, so long as i'm happy with myself. and i am... so i'm thinking of putting them back in and doing it naturally this time.

i am making a bunch of wool hats in preparation so i can tuck my hair up at work and still get some good rubbing action in (i work at borders so i'm HOPING they don't care about hats... i mean jeez everyone there has tattoos and piercings, i don't see why beanies would be so shocking... but if they do i'll make wool bandana-shaped things and wear them on my hair...)

so i just want to say for everyone who is thinking about doing it, but are hesitant because of what other people think... stick up for what you want, and believe in yourself. other people's opinions will influence you, yes... but if you deny yourself something you know you want for silly reasons like i did, you'll regret it greatly.

peace and love all.

 

good for you! and your guy sounds like a good one for sure - honest, and respects you for who you are. and about your job - i'm sure you'll be fine! hey, i work as a gatekeeper/security guard at a condo place and so far, no one has said anything my new dreadies. i just tie em back and do my thang!

 

good for you
and i wonder the guy ya were sleeping with (you didnt say boyfreind) how long after ya combed em out was it that ya discovered he was a worthless loser?

u shouldas trusted yoursdelf that night and realized he would never be worth changing who u are for

 

Wise words from Soaringeagle.
I've been where you're at sister, it's beautiful that you're following your heart now.

 

you know soaringeagle... you think i would have learned then... but it was all for the best really... only recently have i realised how completely connected everything that's happened in the past year has been... and now it's got me with a person i fit perfectly with... and more or less happy with myself!

so yeah, i'm getting ready to wash with the lovely baking soda concoction tomorrow because i haven't been able to buy any bronners yet, and then it's dry in the sun and head to work!

 

Glad to hear you are on the right track. It sounds like you're just having a good time and enjoying yourself this time, and thats over half the battle right there!

 

yeah, the "first day" (heh) went well... i LOVE the feeling of not brushing my hair i'm still in the habit of running my fingers through it but it's cemented under a scarf right now. and here's a prep hat i made: (it's not very big but then i don't have very much hair!)

 

Dreadlocks will look good on a lot of people, especially you I'm glad you found where your heart decided to go and followed through with out thinking twice. Best of luck!

 

hurray for natural, i just started two weeks ago... its so exciting.

Good luck

 

lunatic! yay im so happy u had ssuch awesomer dreads this time will be even better

 

yeah... exciting is the word for it... i got all giddy today because i washed my hair with dr. bronner's peppermint soap... so it smelled good and then dried all soft and knotty. i feel a little silly for enjoying this so much but then i remember... it's fucking awesome!

i'm also in a good mood because i walked everywhere without shoes today, heh. and i got a good deal on some wool yarn so i made another hat.

 

I get giddy everytime I wash with Dr. Bronner's peppermint soap, the smell just makes me feel good all over, so I know how you feel!