Little paranoia problems, want help..

Hey, so I'm a real skinny guy, about 118 pounds, 6'0, so naturally I'm pretty damn tiny, ever since I was little i've had people make fun of the fact that im skinny as hell, and yes, I have tried every possible way to get bigger, just a gene I inherited, but, I have paranoia about everything, and lately, its been getting bad with clothes, I bought about 8 new shirts a month ago, and a few of those shirts neck holes got huge, I know you can shrink clothes, but then its not long enough and I freak the fuck out, and won't wear it, and lose the money I spent, is there any way to get over shit like this? Any advice will help, I just need some so I dont take this to a larger extent.

 

I had horrible paranoia for the longest time. And I got over it. So it can be done. It wasn't exactly the same paranoia, of course... The trick for me is to practice not caring and relax. Any time you find yourself caring, relax.

People always point out whatever it is about you that sticks out. But those things that stick out are what make you cool. If you can't find shirts that fit you, you should consider yourself lucky and awesome. Go with it.

 

It sounds like you are scarred from being made fun of, and it's manifesting as an insecurity about things. Most people go through this, the best way to grow out of it is meditation, and I find weed helps with that.

Smoke a bowl and confront the thoughts in your head.

 

Damn! I'm 6' 2" and weigh 175 lbs and I'm thin

If I weighed 118 I'd be a stick figure

You have every right to be paranoid




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haha yeah its ridiculous as fuck. I mean I workout alot, so I have muscle, but its just my genetics, and yeah alot of it has to do with 98% of the time when I meet new people, the first reaction is " Oh my god he's so skinny!, look at his wrist! " In my head I want to say bitch I got a big dick at least. Lmfao only kidding I wouldn't say that, but I have alot of paranoia, a little new one I've noticed is, im scared someones going to slip something in a drink of mine, even if its in my posession, and my mind tricks my body into freaking out and getting worried.

 

I like being paranoid. It's one of my favorite hobbies.

 

People always react at how I'm small. I'm like 5'8 or something, ~125 pounds. I get over it though with humor. I figure, I don't really want to hang around people that are so obsessed with physical looks and stuff anyways. I'd rather be around people that like me for being me, ya dig??

There is also a psychology term called "Flashlight phenomena" which is basically what you are doing with your clothes. You are finding "flaws" or things that you think are wrong about yourself and you are blowing them up in your head, thinking everyone thinks the same thing.

9 times our of 10, other people don't notice. And they WON'T notice anything you feel self-conscious about if you draw their attention to something else. Like I said earlier, humor is a great way to distract. (Not even distract, because you want people to accept who you are, but just allow yourself to be more open)

Just relax and be yourself. If your shirts fit funny, who the fuck cares? If you are a damn funny person that goofy look will benefit you.