heres the scenario. i have a 3yr old and a 1 yr old just found out i am about 3 weeks pregnant. i am still nursing my 1 yr old and for the past week he has refused for me to hold him or rock him to sleep he has even stopped nursing during the day. the only person that can put him to sleep is his father and well since his dad doesnt have time to put him to sleep everynight i just wanted to know what to do and if anyone else out there has experienced something like this. i am feeling so rejected by my own son and its heart wrenching.
object relations right off. first thing i need to know is, what sex is the three year old? it might be that he is starting to realize he is a male and, he wants to start bonding to another male (his father.) whatever you do... don't over-react to this change in his behavior! most likely it is normal psychological growth for him but, both you and your husband (and other adults) need to watch and see where this is heading. he might also be picking up from you and, your husband behavior that something has change (the pregnancy.) at one year of age he most likely is starting to experment at becomming an individual. it is damn good that you asked this question. realize he is growing and learning right now how to become a human being and a person. you too are growing and learning at becomming a parent of this child. i hope this is helpfull to you.
well...i'm still nursing my son who is 1 1/2 and i'm about seven weeks or so along...he's shown no signs of stopping, but i've heard that up to 75 percent of breastfeeding kids will wean when mom is pregnant.... i'm curious to see what my son will do and also curious to see if he will start nursing again when the new babe arrives....they say after one year, most children are breastfeeding for the ritual of it, the comfort of it, not really the nutrition so much... is he still nursing at night at all? do you have any sort of bedtime ritual in place for your three year old that you might get your one year old involved in? just know, momma, that your son and you will be alright and you will both make it through this rough patch.... and congrats on the new babe on the way!
My son gave up on me when I was around 6 months pregnant. He was 15 months old at the time. I didn't feel rejected. I always told my self I'd let them decide when to stop. My daughter wanted nothing to do with nursing when she was around 10 months. That kinda made me sad, just cause I was hoping to nurse her as long as my first.
congrats to you as well. i have a ritual for both of them at night. its been the same since day one. bath snack nighttime drinks (water), blankets and sit on the couch to cuddle and watch animal planet for about a half hour or so. I was just hoping to nurse my 1 yr old for as long as i did with my 3 yr old. fiance tells me its not fair if i stop nursing him just because i feel like it ( this was when i wasnt pregnant) i kept telling him its not me he's just weaning himself. i can handle the fact that he is weaning himself. i'm not used to daddy being the one he prefers. guess thats kind of selfish of me huh.
not selfish at all....nursing relationships are very strong bonds and it is hard when the nursing part ends....he is making his own choice though, and you have to respect that....the bond that you two share because you nursed him (for over a year...some mommas cannot even say that!) will never go away....
