feeling like a dick.

SO iu have this friend i give her a ride to and from work she's a good friend we get along great. Well she wants more, i just told her that it's not going to happen, she got all sad and mushy saying she's never good enough for anyone so on and so fourth. I'm just not interested in her jumping from her b/f now to me, and she has 3 kids. I don't mind kids and i want some of my own BUT i don't want to jump into THAT situation. WHat i would like to know from all of you (except that one trailerpark trash asshole) is if i should feel bad?

 

Yes, them there kiddos need a daddy!!!!

 

I agree they do, but thats not me. How am i accountable because thier dad is an asshole that sees them very little?

 

Don't feel bad, just don't be mean to her about it. Her children are not your responsibility unless you love her andd her children, which you don't.

 

I'm not mean to her, but she is acting all diffrent. I knew it was getting bad she would say some stuff, like kidnap me for the night i don't expect sex i just want to cuddle with you, and she would always be all mushy on the ride home from work trying to hold my hand or rub my leg. Now she is making me feel bad for this, with the whole not good enough thing.

 

shes fugly, isnt she?

 

Well she's not YOU but she's not ugly. She's a little hood chick thats not my thing at all, we just don't have alot in common.

 

Youre fine. She doesnt seem to independent, and that is crucial for being a parent.

 

just wrap your tool and give it to her

 

Rejecting someone is not necessarily being a dick. It is making choices that influence your life in a higher degree than most anything else.

 

i don't think you should feel like a dick... but if it comes down to it, you may have to be a dick...stop giving her a ride, being nice to her etc. if she just doesn't get the hint....

 

Then why do i feel like a dick for hurting her feelings? She's not understanding, she isn't what i'm looking for......we are friends thats cool but thats all it is.

 

At least she's fertile...

That's important

Darwin says so.

 

I can't stop giving her a ride then how would she get to work? How would she feed her kids etc etc, her current B/F doesn't work he's a total thug wanna be that has a history of beating her. I know it's not my obligation to make sure she gets to work, but i wouldn't do that to a friend.

 

Haha she already HAS a bf?
This girl must be a complete nut job. What does she expect? Do you have no public transportation in your city?

 

Yeah she has a b/f claims she's tried to get rid of him and won't leave. I pretty much figure she uses him as a babysitter while looking for something better. That already doesn't sit well for her character.

 

Wow people have some fucked excuses 'he wont leave'.

 

i totally had the best advice ever for you, but apparently you don't want to hear from me...

 

Well,
You are a dick,
but not for that.
It isn't a dick move unless you screamed " I don't fucking like you nappy ass whore"...
and then followed with an offer to plug her hole if it would make her feel better-
otherwise, I think you're good..
but still a dick

 

I don't think you're a dick for that. You aren't interested. She seems a bit strange anyway, and you don't want to get mixed up in this bf mess either...
Comments like "I'm never good enough for anyone" are not turn-ons for most guys...

If she needs this ride to work, then you should set some boundaries...if the shoe was on the other foot, she'd be screaming sexual harassment for all the suggestive comments and touching of the leg, etc...tell her you are uncomfortable with all that.

Don't feel bad.