I'm an in the closet Gay can anybody give me some tips to come out to my grandmother

Discussion in 'Gay Polls' started by oscar_da_couch, Aug 15, 2004.

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Should I come out to my Grandparents?

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  2. No Wait untill they die and come out to my remaining family?

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  1. oscar_da_couch

    oscar_da_couch Member

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    Can anybody give me some tips to come out to my grandmother? please!
     
  2. Defence_mechanism

    Defence_mechanism Member

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    thats really hard to answer without specifics. whats your grandmother like? is she ok with gays? why do you want to come out to your grandmother before your parents and immediate family? do you think she'll take it well?
     
  3. rocknroll_girl

    rocknroll_girl Member

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    yeah, i agree - more specifics are needed.
     
  4. Taylor

    Taylor Repatriated

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    check out our responses to the post by LogsOnSticks. He was asking similar questions.

    Also, there are many threads in the history of this forum that deal with coming out. Go and have a browse and see if anything is helpful.
     
  5. Snowdancer

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    Like everyone else says we don't know enough details to talk intelligently about this. I know that my Mother went to the next life last February without my having come out to her about being bi because she wouldn't have wanted to kow & there wasn't a reason to tell her. I suppose that if you are gay it is harder for it not to come up in a way as you get into relationships. Is it that she will be the best ally in the family? That would be worth quite a bit. You know her best, what does the little voice in your head say about it?

     
  6. jungee

    jungee Member

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    LMAO..that's a funny question in a way.
     
  7. vimmeroony

    vimmeroony Member

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    straight out tell her.. you could probably out-run her if she tries to tackle you to the ground.
     
  8. ciaobello24

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    I think it depends on your relationship with your grandmother. Does she need to know? I have two grandmothers one knows the other does not! The grandmother that knows i'm me is cool, funny enough she knew along time ago. It's up to you! If you do come out to her... sit her down and talk to her and don't back down no matter what....
    I'm hope it works out
    jesu
     
  9. SkeeterVT

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    I agree with the other members that without more specific information about your grandmother -- or, for that matter, your parents -- we can't give you any advice on this. We don't know where your grandmother or your parents stand on GLBT people; you haven't told us. We don't know why specifically your grandmother (Are you already out to your parents?).

    We're flying blind here; we need for you to "fill in the blanks."

    -- Skeeter
     
  10. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

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    I feel like such a pussy for doing this. The rest of my family knows, but they're not going to tell them and neither am I. I don't even get why, my grandad was a bodybuilder, for Christ's sake.
     
  11. SageDreamer

    SageDreamer Senior Member

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    I guess it all depends on you and on her.

    If you don't see her very often and you aren't close to her, does it really matter?

    The best general advice I can give about coming out to anyone is that you should only come out if it's good news. If you don't feel good about coming out, you should at least wait a while. Don't come out if it's an angry thing to do.

    My first instinct was to have you think about your grandmother before you decide to come out to her or decide how to come out to her. Instead, I think you might want to think about yourself. If you are in the closet, the first people you tell are pretty likely to be the most difficult people to come out to. Do you know any good gay friends in your area? It might help to talk to them first and find out about their experiences with coming out. You may need to be around good friends before you come out to your grandmother, after you come out to her, or both.

    I don't know where in the world you live, but it might also help to check out Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). They have some helpful information and support for people who are coming out to family and friends.
     
  12. NJnudedude

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    I have no idea about your grandmother. Mine has been dead for 20 years.

    But what about your parents?
     
  13. mushie18

    mushie18 Intergalactic

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    my grandma was the easiest member of my family to come out to.
     
  14. clementinexo

    clementinexo hip *****s sucks.

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    if your grandma is anything like mine iwouldn't even bother..
     
  15. *~nathan~*

    *~nathan~* Member

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    I say why wait?
     
  16. Loveminx

    Loveminx Sports Racer

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    She'll be dead soon, don't worry bout it sweets!
     
  17. justCHILL

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    ok...I'm not out yet mainly because I'm not even positive if I'm bi but in my opinion, why keep secrets. if its a big part of your life, I'd tell her while you still have a chance to.
     
  18. Aesthete

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    Maybe she already is dead.
     
  19. lonly&hurt

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    ha ha ha uhh.......my grandma found out the hard way lol
     

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