since i moved back home for the summer 3 weeks ago i have been catching up with lots of old friends from high school. this one girl that i have known since 2nd grade has also came home for the summer. we have always gotten along, and i mean always, not to say we might not agree about something, but none the less she has been a good friend. i havent seen her in almost 2 years, and i must say that she looks good. for the last 3 weeks now almost every time we are toughter doing something even if there are other people around she makes all kinds of hints that she wants me bad. from what i know and have heard she has always wanted me. a lot more than i have towards her. i know that if i decided to date her that the realsionship would be a lot of fun. i really believe that. everything about her personality and the vibe i get from being around her is what i think everyone wants when dating someone. i dont think our friend ship will be destroyed if we try dating and it doenst work. both of us want to stay friends for as long as possible. but there is the sexual aspect to this. she is attractive yes, but im not as attracted to her as she is to me. i dont know what my deal is not wanting to start things. i think its because i have known her as a good friend for a long time and getting sexual seems a little wierd for me. sometimes people who start dating get more sexually attracted to each other though. i dont know my mind is all over the place. any questions or comments would be great. thanks.
It's true that sometimes when you start dating someone you become more and more attracted to them as time goes by. It's all about connection...it can be greater than just a friendship connection. Give it a try. Keep an open mind. Good luck
If you're not attracted to her, you're not attracted to her. Usually in this day of age, dating, even be it a summer thing, usually ends up sexual. It's not really a choice to whom you are attracted to, regardless of how physically beautiful/sexy/cute they may be to others. From my experience, if there is no phsyical connection right away, chances are slim that there will be in the future, and if you only have the summer, the chances may even decrease. Maybe you should just bone her and see how that pans out.
hi i have been in a similer situation to you and I did start to become sexually atracted to her i spent 2 years with her and she left me and i was broken hearted when it ended still have feeling for her !!!
Friends - are you sexually experienced? If not, you may have some anxiety about starting up a sexual relationship with an old friend. I have a picture of myself holding hands with a girl when we were both about three or four. We liked each other. A few years later, when we were 7 or 8, we played "doctor" and she explored my penis and I explored her vagina. It was very informational - we each learned that "there is a difference". Years later, when we were both in college, we had a short sexual relationship. It seemed so natural - we had been friends since we were very young, there was no secret as to what we each found beneath our clothes (although mine had grown a lot since we last connected, and her breasts had also filled out very well). It was good sex, and we both benefited from the experience. I have not seen her in many years, and don't know where she is now, but I remember our time together well.
I was with a my best guy friend for 4 years, it was great, then when I called it off our friendship went to shit, so it is something to worry about. It is IMPOSSIBLE to tell if your friendship would last threw a break up.
Well, if you are not attracted to her don't force yourself... See how it feels while being "sexual" and if it's too weird or doesn't feel right then I wouldn't risk your friendship over it...
I think take a lot of time before getting sexual because it can ruin your friendship. Try saying romantic things to her and get to know her in that loving matter, once she or you gets comfy with it, ask her her fantasies, and if its what you like, go for it, but if shes a little weird in the "lovers" stage then i agree above..dont risk the friendship
