So I may have sex for the first time during Summer. I know I'm probably thinking too much about all of this, but I'm SO nervous. Neither me nor my partner have ever done it before, and we're scared as heck about it. He wanted me to be on top (rofl), but after reading over some of these threads, it seems like the chance of pregnancy is higher that way or something. o_o; And I heard birth control pills make you gain weight and breast size... and I don't want that. 8| I'm skinny, but more weight isn't for me. Nor is breast size. I hate condoms, so that's most likely a no-go. I seriously don't know what/how to do it.
Go on the pill. I didn't gain any weight, and if you think 5 lbs is bad, the weight from being pregnant is worse. Use the pill or condoms, or chances are you will be a mom before you know it.
Yea, pregnant women gain quite a bit of weight. And their breast size increases. I think the pill would result in less side effects than a baby or an abortion. If you're ready to have sex, then you're ready to be mature and responsible about it and use a condom. Or another form of birth control. Otherwise, you shouldn't be having sex. And woman on top does not increase the risk of pregnancy. Sperm causes pregnancy - not sexual position.
you dont sound ready for sex... z0mg 5lbs vs a baby and the responsibility of being a parent for 18(+) years. how do you know you hate condoms if this is going ot be your first time btw?
I didn't know the weight you gained from the pills were only 5lbs, though. :x I thought it was a lot more. Some person said they gained over 20. And I know sexual positions don't determine pregnancy. The reason I said a woman being on top may increase it is because it makes it more difficult for the male to pull out.
PULL OUT METHOD IS BAD! OMG I hate seeing all these young people talking about it. PRE-CUM has sperm too, and if this is the first time that your boy is having sex you can't trust that he will know when he's going to get off. How much weight you gain on the pill is dependent on the person, it can be more the 5 lbs, but I can garantee that you wont gain as much weight as you would from pregnancy. I'm agreeing with Allonym on this, you don't sound ready for sex.
I seriously hope you're not going to rely on a teen's ability to pull out. For one thing, pulling out is not birth control. For another, a teen is NOT going to have enough control to pull out in time - each and every time. Pre-cum, as someone else pointed out, can contain sperm. It takes one sperm to make a baby. They call it "pull and PRAY" for a reason. I concur - you don't sound ready for sex at all. Sex comes (no pun intended, lol) with responsibility. You can't just have the fun without the responsibility and consequences part. If you're going to do this, do it correctly or not at all. If you were older, financially secure, etc., you could use the pull out method to your heart's content because, in that case, if you accidentally got pregnant you would have a greater flexibility of options.
While some women really have gained as much as 20 lbs on the pill, that's not likely. If you're not comfortable with the pill, talk to planned parenthood or a doctor (or in the internet like you're doing) for other options. Just make sure to always use birth control. AND condoms, whether you like them or not. STDs are even worse than pregnancy.
not all pills have risk of weight gain. i used to be on ovcon 65 which is advertised as a non weight gain pill, and i actually lost weight when i was on it.
I talked it over with my mom regarding pills, and she said the effect it can have is different for the person... I may end up LOSING weight, and I'm skinny enough as it is, so it may be trouble for me. :x And sometimes they increase the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Honestly, I'm stumped when it comes to pills at the moment.
You never answered how you know that you don't like condoms if you've never had sex. Just make sure that you have some form of birth control when you do have sex. I know someone that got pregnant on her first time, the pull out method is a foolish way to keep yourself safe. Only reccommended for if your in a couple that where it wouldn't be a terrible thing if a baby did result.
Until your ready to have a baby, you don't really get a choice about condoms. They don't feel that different and I really don't know how you could tell whether you would like them or not having not had sex. Trust me, if your boyfriend is worth the time he will be quite happy to use them. In regards to the pill, I'm on it and I havent gained weight, if that is your main concern talk to your doctor about which specific variety suits you best.
My advice, use a condom EVERY TIME. Then you won't even know the difference. Also the "hate" of condoms, you obviously don't know what it feels like, is it an ideological or religious thing or something, I don't get it?...
condoms are lame and incredibly wastefull, and taking an exceedingly large amount of estrogen isn't a great idea either (estrogen has been linked to breast cancer, higher amounts = higher risks), birth control, that is... I really think we should be speaking of things like diaphragms etc. more. they are reusable, and therefore much more environmentally friendly (yes, all that extra hormones you piss out goes straight to the lake where it fucks with the fish, as well as us seeing as how hormones are NOT filtered out of water in any case) and as long as you're not worried about diseases can be just as effective, if not more, then condoms... why does everyone tell these girls to take the pill? we seem to be against big pharma, but the pill's cool, right?
I absooolutely agree. I went ont the pill as well and did not gain at all. To that condom topic: I hate them as well. But I tried using them. You say you're virgin so I presume you have never used them, right? Maybe you could try it.
Look, often people will gain weight on the pill but going on the pill coincides with: a) late teens/early twenties when your metabolism slows down so a little weight gain is common. b) a new relationship where you tend to gain weight anyway. statistically most people gain weight in the honeymoon period of a relationship. I don't like the pill long term or any other hormonal contraceptive but in the short term it is a good back up to the condom. pulling out is super risky.
I did gain weight on the pill but no more than 5 lbs, like everyone else is saying..Yaz is excellent, I suggest trying it. I was on ortho-tricyclene (sp?)..and it wasn't that great. Birth control isn't all that bad, if you get cramps or have occasionally acne it is great for that. I say go for it. If you dont want to gain weight just excersice a little bit..and as for your boobs getting bigger, it happens to some people and not to other, unfortunately mine got huge, but they were big to begin with..so yeah good luck. if you have a gynocologist talk to them about starting birth control they are helpful, and they dont judge! lol
