The Pull Out Method.

Hey Everyone,

So my current boyfriend and I have been having sex for almost about three months. We started with condoms and switched the the pull out method. The condoms irritated me and neither of us really enjoyed the feel of them. My boyfriend and I have a LOT of sex. To use a new condom everytime isn't exactly something practical. We joked that it'd probably be cheaper to feed a family of ten for a year then to use a condom everytime we have sex for a month.
I refuse to put myself of birth control. I know it seems very irrational, but I'd rather have a baby then screw with my natural cycle like that.
Does anyone feel this way? That it's wrong to take medication to throw off such a natural womanly process?
Anyway, we've been using the pull out method and though we're completely sure neither of us has STD's we're still concerned about pregnancy slightly. Has anyone gotten pregnant from this method? Does anyone totally shun this method of BC? What is your thoughts on the withdrawl method?
Thanks for your thoughts!
Peace &+ Love,
Emily.

 

Sounds like a good way of getting preggers.

 

agreed
id mention something about tracking your cycle and abstaining when youre most fertile at least, but it sounds like you two are going at it like bunnies... and if condoms are too big of a bother, well, enjoy motherhood

 

Look at the bright side... judging from your photos you and your boyfriend will probably make beautiful babies!

 

you could try bubble wrap!

 

Thank you for the replies!
to stinkfoot: Haha, thank you. Some of my pictures are from two years ago so I can imagine people shaking their head at them while reading this post.
to Allonym: I'm actually using the rhythm method with the pull out. Though I know that is also a easy way to get pregnant as well, I track my ovulation and am aware of which days I am, so I can abstain from sex.
Connor is reliable with pulling out on time (and usually a few minutes before for safety) the whole argument is pre-cum containing sperm which I've never got a solid answer on.
Thanks again for the input though.

 

'Has anyone gotten pregnant from this method?'

Yes, plenty. Especially Roman Catholic ladies.
I'm joking a little, but yes people have, hundreds of thousands.

'I know it seems very irrational, but I'd rather have a baby then screw with my natural cycle like that.'

If you would rather go through your life with possibility of getting pregnant, at a time not of your choosing, continue with the method you have adopted.

It seems a little bit of shame to have this slight worry, when the solution is simple.

 

precum has spermies in it. just less than regular semen
cervical cap, diaphragm, or spermicide are also options (though spermicide typically uses nonoxynol9 which can increases susceptibility to yeast infections for some women, try it out and if you get a yeast infection then you know it's not the right fit for you)

 

yeah I would say go for a cervical cap/diaphram.
Sex might feel nicer without the condoms but I'm not willing to take the risk of becoming pregnant at the moment, so i guess you just need to consider whether it is worth that risk to you.
You shouldnt feel a diaphram though and you can put it in before the heat of the moment so it doesnt ruin it like condoms do, cheaper in the long run etc.

 

They have a copper IUD - no hormones. Approved for women without children.

Otherwise, as someone mentioned - cervical caps.

Chances are high that, eventually, you will wind up pregnant with the pull out method. Maybe not right now or tomorrow or even a year from now ... but, most people who use this method as their only form of "birth control" wind up being called mom and dad.

 

I thought I'd read up on this (well, why not).
Coitus interruptus is about 4000 years old.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coitus_interruptus
So, I doubt 'PLURs' actions will be the ending of humankind *chuckle*.
Thinking it over, I feel that 'PLUR' should go to her GP and discuss options.
She seems a fairly inteligent person, so why the struggle over this, suprises me. In every other way she seems to have got a very good handle on it.
But, this one issue stumps her. I feel there is other underlying reasons she is asking us and herself this question. What they are, I do not know.

 

Also, you should get the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" if you're really serious about tracking your cycle to avoid conception. FAM (fertility awareness method) can work with a high degree of effectiveness, but it does require a little more work than rhythm, which is not nearly as reliable. It works best if BOTH partner are committed to FAM, and understand how it works.

 

Thank you for all of the answers you guys.
Another reason I am not on a good method of BC and come to a forum to ask such questions is because my mother refuses to take me to a gynecologist to talk about these matters or putting me on birth control. It's always a very silly fight even if I try to stay calm with her. Getting to planned parenthood is a joke. It's REALLY far away. (no car, wouldn't want one anyway). Also, the pull out method is something thats argued a lot on the web. Some people swear by it, haven't gotten pregnant from relying on it for years and year and others (which I'm seeing a lot of people feel so here) think its pretty freaking dumb of me. I just was curious to what kind of advice I could get here being you all are very friendly and intelligent people.
Spermicide causes me to get yeast infections and UTI's. I'm really prone to them and once I get them, they don't leave my system for weeks.
So this is just a very topic for me. Thanks again for the help though, I much appreciate it.

 

I'm sure there is a online site, that has professional it.
For just such problems you have (I'm talking about your mother and the distance, by the way).

 

That was supposed to say - professionals on it.

Damn these forum niggles. Edit/Post is not working properly.

 

2000+ miles away , but you can email them
http://www.brook.org.uk/content/M2_1_Contraception.asp

 

I've been using the pullout method for awhile and I'm not pregnant, maybe I'm just lucky though.

 

I just noticed (the OP) you're in high school.

No offense, but there IS a very real reason as to why teenage pregnancy is actually on the rise.

I think the pull out method is fine when you're an independent adult, and can take care of an "oopsie" on your own - whether that means having the baby or paying for an abortion. Right now, though, it's easier to get a ride to Planned Parenthood than it is a ride to the hospital to give birth or a ride to an abortion clinic.

A few seconds of pleasure are NOT worth the risk you are taking with your life and future. Be responsible about it, if you're truly ready for sex - use a condom. They make ones that are non-latex. There's really no excuse for relying on the pull out method when you're in high school.

I'm a moderator of another relationship board, and we get A LOT of teens who wind up pregnant. Guess what method they used? The same on you are.

 

Thank you for the link Odon. That's VERY informative, just what I needed. I'm gonna make myself a salad and sit down and read it very seriously in a minute or two.

Thank you for your warning LittleWonder. I know its not the best idea. Actually a girl I know (and don't very much care for) just got pregnant and she's my age. It was kinda like a reality slap in the face without actually... getting slapped in the face myself. So I am looking into a different form of BC.

 

my girlfriend has a baby. she is catholic. we did use the pullout method. i made her take the pill. it is fucking stupid of you to think the shit your thinking, no offence. most people take the pill and its all good. i told my gf i would not want to marry her if she would never take the pill. so now she takes the pill

freakin catholics and their god damn birth control issues.
so freakin take the god damn pill.
having a child at young age sucks
sorry if i sound mean, but you' ll thank me when you dont have a kid.