Why is being a virgin an insult?

I'm not trying to save anyone from being persecuted. I just think it's a retarded insult. ''You're a 28 year old virgin''. So fucking what?

Quite often when I have the pleasure of a women who'll stoop so low, I passive aggressively chase her away. Needless to say, I don't go to the mall or the club to 'scope' that poon.

Logically, I'm gay. However, because I'm not a virgin (or it seems to be immediately believable that I'm not) it's ok.

At the risk of sounding BBGay, why is it that important that some one else has sex? It's not like it's a fucking achievement. I could walk out... no. I could just pick up the phone. Bam. Sex and a STD to prove I poked some stink and if they don't believe you, rub some chlamydia in their eye.

 

because, basically, it says that in this world of easy sex, someone sucks so bad as a person that they can't get laid. not saying it's right, i'm saying, that's why.

also, it could mean you're a christian.

 

This society is ridiculously oversexed.

To such an extent that it's completely amazing. Most young people measure their sex worth based on their sexual experiences.

TV tells you that being a virgin is a sin upon the face of society. You better listen to the TV, right? The celebrity faces are just so cunningly beckoning. They are calling you, Average Joe sitting on the couch.... "Base your life around getting laid", they whisper.

 

What's BBgay?

 

no idea. apparently i'm a BB virgin.

 

You say that like it's a bad thing.

 

i'm a child of my media-driven, oversexed time.

 

Because people are products of their media and societal indoctrination. Because society more or less dictates that you must be a certain way to be considered "cool" or "worthy," the majority of people inherit those beliefs and attitudes without question. These days it's not uncommon for 13 yr. olds to have had multiple sex partners. Just ten years ago that would have been a shock to most people. So why is sex being shoved down everyone's throat? Because, for one, it serves to distract people from what's real. Most people don't realize that this is all being pushed from the top. It didn't just happen on its own.

 

btw, on a serious sidenote, i dont' get why being a virgin is good thing, either.

 

this was such a confusing post... are you gay, a virgin, a gay virgin, a gay BB, what?


anyway, people naturally want to have sex, and if you are so unlikeable that you can't get someone to do so with you then there is clearly something wrong with you. i suppose it's a more logical insult than calling someone a fag...

 

it's not... when people say it is they are being patronizing...

 

I guess it's just today's fashion. It's fashionable to have plenty of partners and start early. If you don't, then you're old-fashioned but most of all you're not smart enough or something like that. You're not cool. I guess it's a response to the tradition when virgins were worshipped... now we think of virgins as repressed, unattractive, not smart enough... we like to think of ourselves as more free than the previous generations, but are we? After all, we are once again judged by established patterns.

 

I don't understand it either. I am 25, and just RECENTLY ... like this month, lost my virginity. And, by that, I mean, before this month, the only thing I had done was kiss a boy in high school, once, when I was 16.

I always knew I would wait until I fell in love ... and that is how long it took me.

Before, I've had many women look at me as if I were a freak just because I had not had sex. I've had men tell me, straight out, that they didn't want a "project girlfriend" who had no experience. I've also had the other side with men - them telling me they'd love to be my first. I ran as soon as I heard either comment. Simply because I wanted to be with someone who didn't define me or sex with me by my virginity.

Also, I had nothing in common with the religious folk who waited. I'm an atheist. It drove me crazy when people assumed I was waiting because of God.

 

I don't think virginity is an insult.
Where I live actually its the other way round, unmarried people who are not virgins are sometimes looked down upon.

 

i read nothing more then the title question.
n that is what my blazed outta my mind response will be from.
the easy answer is
its not
but some insecure people use it. like sex means shit. and when you have sex the first time. its all petty bs.
anyone who cares either way has problems.

 

our society is extremely focused on sex and bodies. if someone's older than 20 and a virgin, I wouldn't look down on them in any way, but I would feel as if they had missed out on a lot of good times. I guess being a virgin at an "old" age is a) strange, because like KC said, it's not that hard to get laid and b) hard to understand because sex is the oldest fun activity there is.

it is unfortunate that there is such sexual pressure on people, everyone's ready at different times, and because you're "supposed" to go around fucking people, it's easier to get pressured into doing just that..

 

i have quite a few friends who had chances and waited into their 20's
i helped a few out haha for real
but no its all good
setting an age is stupid
i was 17
i even felt SOME pressure but i didnt let it get to me
when i was ready i was ready
i respect my friends that waited until their 20's until they felt it was right for them. there is no shame in that. some people who ACTUALLY think so are complete idiots.

 

I understand that you want to blame society and make what is simply 'peer pressure' into some kind of brainwashing indoctrination, but sex being shoved down people's throats as a means of distracting them from what is real is quite an outlandish claim.

 

oh my god, sex has always been great and loved by most people, its not just now.

 

no doubt. i don't get the virginity thing. either way, what the hell do i care unless i'm trying to get into your pants? these nearly mythical values people place on doing or not doing ONE THING is just amazing and totally stupid. i saw no point in remaining a virgin when i didn't want to. i did see the point in finding the right person to lose it too.