She's saving herself, do I wait?

7 months in, both virgins. my first relationship, shes had a few long term serious ones.

recently found out shes waiting for the one and until marriage which i never thought i would have a problem with, but i cant stop thinking about what this means. i will not be young long, and i fear waking up in say 2 years, we've split (she's 100% leaving the country permenantely in 2yr) and im left alone wandering how ive wasted the years between 18-22.

am i thinking too much about nothing? what would you guys do in a situation like this, one that you abruptly found out there wouldnt be any sex?

 

do you want to spend forever with her? marry her eventually? if your answer isn't yes to both, then you probably aren't going to be with her long enough to get in her pants, which means it's time to find someone else. If you're ok with waiting and you want to marry, then wait

 

Exactly, what the above poster said.

Do you plan on marrying her? Will you spend your life with her?

If no, move on now. I highly doubt she'll change her mind, if she's your age and has been firm in her commitment.

So, if you're not planning on "forever" with her ... might as well move on now and find someone more compatible.

 

Well man, it's a question of what you want; are you content with your current relationship, even without sex, or would you want someone else with a sexual relationship? It's hard to find girls who are cool yet stick to such a thing like she has, it takes a lot of integrity.
Maybe explain your situation to her, like that you respect her decision to save herself for marriage, but aren't quite planning the same route for yourself, unless it happens that you would be saving yourself for her/vice versa?

oh, and kudos for deathcab

 

to be honest its not really the sex thing, this was just something that pushed me to seriously think about what im doing and where this is going.

i think its a good thing to wait for the one, its so much better to hear this from someone rather than oh yeah ive slept with x number of guys... the reason im upset about it is because i honestly dont see myself as being that one and really have no idea what she thinks.

so do i continue staying with someone whos waiting for this so-called "the one" even though im not it? it sounds like a selfish thing to do but im not quite ready to say goodbye, just not sure what to do at all

ps, great band & album