How to talk to the ladies?

I woulda posted this in the women's forum but I don't want them turnin me into a pansy or anything.(Your input would be appreciated tho )

Long story short, i'm 21, my looks are so-so, and i've always had problems with communicating with women. Like, sometimes when i'm at work I see how my male co-workers are just able to talk to women like it's nothing. Me on the other hand, it's not so much fear as much as it is I have absolutely nothing to say and to be blunt, don't really care about what they have to say unless they bring up something of interest.

Is charm and wit genetic? I'm somewhat aloof but I wanna at least be the cool kind of aloof that can say some slick shit and just keep it moving. So fellas, what's your game like? Any tips for a young player tryna come up?

 

i just be myself and i dont really end up talking to women. they seem to talk to me. women always have something to say even if its not important so talkin with them is not that hard. just dont act shy and reclusive or act like you have a bubble around you that keeps them away. just be yourself and the right lady will be impressed, and you might not even be trying. its worked for me.

 

game player dont wanna be turned into a pansey.. dude ya are hopeless
u say yoiuy dont find any interest an anything "they" have to say
stop thinking of them as some scary they.. ppl are ppl no matter whats between theyre legs.. so just talk to them like ppl..
how hard is hi how ya doin you look nice tonight..wow that was so hard to come up with took months of research and planning

whatever ya do dont think of it as a game.. dont think of yourself as a player or all you'll end up with is 1 great big joike

 

that's a good thing, the key part of the sentence being the latter one.

that guy's an asshole.

I wouldn't worry about what to say to them, the more of them you talk with the better you get at it. who do you want to be? once you figure that out, it's the simple step of becoming that person. if you become interesting, they'll become interested.

do you want to be a "player"? if so, talk to Hyphy. he'd be able to point you in the right direction for becoming one and learning how to pick up girls in bars and play social games to make them like you.
personally, I think that lifestyle is ultimately ungratifying and I doubt it will get you any closer to happiness.

 

You need to stop thinking that talking to women is something special vs just talking to any other person

 

That's just the strange thing, it's not that I have fear about it. I can say hi how are ya and all that stuff, even go as far as give some compliments, but then that's where it ends. It's as if I draw blanks after that.

I was just joking about the player stuff i'm sarcastic like that. But thanks for the advice.

 

if you're got nothing to say to someone and have no interest in what they're saying, then you brush it off and move on to the next person. eventually you'll find the interesting ones.

 

one man bro david deangalo he has changed my life forever google him.

 

Ahh,
my Brother i have always been the same way. Not really shy but nothing pertinent to talk about. I think KC hit it on the head. It may be truly that you havent found anybody really worth wasting breath with. Those people are really few and far between for me. Dont look at it as trying. look at it as finding some interesting characteristic about that girl and metion it to her. i can melt a girls heart if i care enough to find out the smallest details about her.
Story:
i ran into a girl at a client site. she metioned it was her 21st birthday. i was shocked because she looks much older and has a 6 year old child.
She caught on fast to my confusion and explained she had been knocked up at a young age. I simply shared that so had my mom.
i later came back and told her that my mom was my hero!
Now if i wanted to i could have had putty in my hands.
Rule 1 be genuine. always always be you!!
Rule 2 dont "try" girls pick that up in an instant
Rule 3 dont hit on every girl. be picky. They are.
Rule 4 dont fret it. You're young, live and learn. by the time you're 30 you'll be the man girls desire.

 

PUSSY! Genetic? Are you bleepin' kidding me? If you have it, great, if you don't, you're lost. Genetics give you a good nose or a long dick, not the ability to communicate. If you've got problems, thank your parents, dude. You can blame all social problems on your parents, but until then, read that book about being a pick up artist and lose the PUSS.

 

Talk to their friends. Best advice I can give you. Kinda combines with another good bit of advice - don't try to separate her from her friends - that, if you're nervous about talking to her, talk to her mates and try to involve yourself in a conversation they're already having. That way, there's less onus on you to make sure things don't fuck up.


The other piece of advice, the one that's really invaluable, is to ask her stuff. I used to be much shyer about talking to people I didn't know than I am now, and as it was put to me: if you're worried that people won't find you interesting, ask them five things about themselves throughout the conversation, and they'll go away thinking you were the most interesting person there. And it's true - the more you talk about yourself, the more likely the other person is to get bored, and the more likely it is that if you say something stupid it will reflect badly on you.

Also, don't knock those pick up artist books. I mean, they're sad and tragic and pathetic, but they do seem to work way better than they should, and I figure if some doughy-looking weirdo can use them to fuck 3000000 women or whatever, it's not exactly the worst sin in the world to learn from them, to at least understand how what they do works. I'm sure girls find it appalling because they feel like they're being cheated and that if you really like them they'll naturally find you fascinating, but that's because girls are dumb and don't realise that there are a whole load of signals guys send out that they just don't pick up on. These "tricks" aren't about deceiving anyone; they're just about expressing how you actually feel in a "body language" that is less likely to be misinterpreted by women.

 

nicely said. awwwwww.

 

Your trying to hard. Its not complicated, there just people. Approach to them and talk to them the same as you would anyone else, one of your friends. Ya know, no big deal. "Hey, hows it goin" "Whats goin on tonight" or somthing then just flow with it. just remember to stay relaxed and convince your self your just standning there talking to somebody, so what. Girls love confidense, ask any girl. But don't be too full of your self.

 

his problem is that they bore him to tears, not that he's shy.

 

the key is to notice something about THEM.

whoever you are talking to. what are they doing, look around you where are you at, what is she wearing, what is she holding, what was she doing before you walked up to her.

there are a thousand different things you could bring up. just ask her something relevant that you noticed about her, and build off of that. once you get going it's easy.

the most important thing is DONT TRY TO HAVE A SCRIPT.

dont plan out what you are going to say, or how you think the conversation is going to go. that is lame and it never works, and you are just going to end up not listening to what she is saying.

 

none of that will help if your ugly. if your ugly, your pretty much fucked with today's generation of women. Sorry but somebody has to tell the truth. Like it or not. I love bein pretty

 

yeah, 'cause we gals can't be forced into marrying ugly fuckers by our parents anymore. WOOHOO!!!!

many would rather get a job and keep a pet.

 

Hey, ugly people find love too.

 

I don't know what this is all about. Is it how do you talk to chicks. Don't you just talk to them ? Oh wait it is Ladies sorry. Anyway I just talk to them. Course I always get the ones that can't do much in the way of taking care of me. But they look good and are fun. So yeah I just talk to them like I would anyone else. Or is there something I am missing except a happy life with my chick. She talks a lot too.

Peace

 

if they're filthy rich...or okay with marrying someone ugly.