Question for those who are psychic or anyone in general with good advice

If you have to you can look at my photo gallery to get an idea of me... but is there something about me that scares men away? I have the worst luck possible when it comes to relationships and I don't understand why? Someone please give me some insight, I feel hopeless and I know that relationships aren't then end all be all of life but I hold them in high reguard because I very much have a desire to be loved in return. (I'm a Libra, lol) Please someone help me to understand what I do wrong or what plans or lack there of God has for me... it would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance for your time

 

You're not doing anything "wrong," Rollin. As long as you're being who you are... But here's a question for you: What's main thrust of your life's goals and desires right now? And how would a relationship fit into that if you had one?

 

My main goal right now is to finish school and get my finances in order and take care of myself, which I've made great advances in all of these. I had a relationship but it just seemed to crumble with time like all the others did. And it's always the same story and never the same type of guy. I meet an amazing man and then they do a 180 and decide they are not ready for a relationship or they become interested in "playing the field" and go out and try to "sexually conquer" other women. It must have something to do with a past life or something is all I can figure.

 

I seem to be having the same trouble. I'm starting to think maybe it's something in the air, rather than something with me...there's too many other variables besides just 'me', and I get the feeling it's the same with you.

 

c'monn girl. there s no way u have to act to make a perfect relationship. it has nothing to do with what we can see in ur photo gallery (but u're cute really), either. don't think of men, ton'd talk about them, just leave the subject! the more u'll be looking for love, the deeper it'll be hidden. live ur life, mess around, do what u love doing! once u'll just stub ur feet against big love that won't leave u. keeping my fingers crossed!

 

I'm sure you're good at achieving goals. So let me ask my previous question again, worded a bit differently. What was/is your goal for a relationship? What is the relationship like, how do you allocate your time for the relationship, what activities do you allocate to it, and how does that time allocation work into the rest of your goals?

 

What I want from a relationship is alot... it could take me awhile to write it all down. The relationship I'm in now (well just ended)... turbulent, lots of highs and lows and mainly me putting forth the effort of trying to somehow save something that isn't worth saving, but we're not really together anymore we're more like friends who are intimate and it's so complicated to try and explain and so hard to let go at the same time. We spend alot of time just sitting in each other's company and we talk about worldly things and our lives (normal stuff) and I realize he is not mature enough to understand the love I have for him yet though we are the same age. And for some reason I have it set in my head that he is the one and have since the first day I met him (he's not... he's not good enough for me... he's not meant to be the man I marry and I know this). . As far as how my time with him fits into my goals... it really doesn't hurt or help them. We are what we are and it doens't make any difference either way I suppose. I settled for a long time with the last guy I was with and I learned alot at the same time and we are still friends because I am an extremely forgiving person and still am very sexually attracted to him for some reason.

 

send me a message on aim/yahoo/email

I get the feeling we should discuss this.

 

Okay Rollin, I'm seeing something.

Take another look at what Cotopaxi said - I agree with her. You're investing too much of yourself in relationships too soon. Throw out your expectations and just live. Do what you love. If you meet a guy you like, try having some fun with him. If it stops being fun, he's the wrong guy - pick up and move on, don't drag it on and be so stinkin' forgiving and understanding. It's all about clinging and letting go - you're into the former too much, and need to start practicing the latter.

Follow your joy - if something is not bringing you joy, drop it and find what does. Past life? Yeah, maybe so - but however that might be, this is clearly the lesson for you right now in this life. Love and best wishes!

 

Love has seemed very hard to find in my life and i think thats because my expectations always seem to think it should come from here or there, this person or that .... but it doesn't seem to work like that with me. Letting go of these expectations of 'where love is to be found' allows love to come from almost anywhere, but the words "I love you" i admit i struggle with. My heart was broken some years ago simply because a woman told me "I love you and i'll always love you" and then proceeded in a manner quite the opposite. This was the dawning of an awakening for me and i began to realise that people are fallible and human and don't always think too deeply about the consequences of what they do or say and that my pain was caused by my expectation of a 'special' love where there is none.
So i learned to find love in places i hadn't even looked before and found ultimately that love comes from within you and is all around you and that by looking for love exclusively in relationships and not anywhere else one may find they feel no love at all ... so for me that means just trying to love the people i'm with and trusting that i'm drawn to people i resonate with.
So i guess this is about being partial or impartial ... exclusive or inclusive with your love and how we can block it in some areas but not others and how this affects our experience of it and whether we feel love or not. So i say love and allow yourself to be loved from all corners and maybe our experience of love will be greater.

I wonder why these guys keep copping out? Well, i know i've done it loads of times and it's mainly because i don't know myself or trust myself to be doing the right thing. When i was younger it was intimacy i was scared of ... i would get as close as i could and then get freaked and run away. LOL ... but it's not funny because a couple of my girlfriends really liked me when i just couldn't believe it.
Hey you're really good looking too... cute is an understatement! and good looks can also bring out insecurities in a partner and also be a barrier to getting to know you underneath the surface. It's shallow but people are often attracted to an image or idea of who or what their partner should be. Good looks can be a curse sometimes!

Anyway i'm no christian but i think jesus had a point when he said "First find the kingdom of heaven" ... in other words ... find out who you are, what love is and then carry on from there.

 

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just happen to have the psy language wheel with me today so i spin it for you . i get this word :

uhwhuh-echi-ejz-t

the Word speaks to you - be physical with a man. if not a good time now , then when ? choose your time , feel strong in it , trust .

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tikoo you always make sense ... even if it's totall gibberish to me

'uhwhuh-echi-ejz-t' ... i'll remember that one! Advise i also need to take. Whats tomorrow anyway?

 

I know what your saying. My girlfriend doesn't care about my looks. But whenever I'm with other girls, and I'm single. They don't even look remotely interested in anything I'm saying, and just look away.

I'm hopeless with women. Thankfully I was given my Ashlee, and thats all that I will ever need. She comes over every night and we just hang out, talk, smoke, all kinds of stuff.

A lot of the dudes I hang with say I got attached way to soon, but IDC.

 

It sounds like your problem is that you've been having relationships with men. Heterosexual men, no matter how amazing, desire women, and this desire is quite hard to control. It's not always just about "conquering other women". Sometimes it's about having one's self reaffirmed by another person. You know, when you've been with someone for a long time, you want to feel new and special to someone again. I would think these problems would be exacerbated for a boy in college.

It doesn't necessarily mean that you're not special, just that you haven't found your special someone.