Would you date a fat person?

I've been with partners from 90 lbs to 325 lbs. Personality is the number one with me. Thye all were sexy and had great personalities. I wasnt ashamed to be seen with them..

 

Point and match. I think you win, dude. :tongue:

 

i did a long time ago. the guy was lovely,but it was a nightmare when it came to sex. as a five foot tall, 49 kilos i had to do all the work. the other problem was that he wasn't very fit and used to get puffed out during sex. also your sexual positions are limited. Giving head was a nightmare because of the rolls of fat god, that sounds so graphic

i think sex is part of any relationship and even if you have a few problems, you can often sort them out. i ended giving up on him and he was very hurt so, i probably wouldn't do it again for fear of upsetting someone again it makes me feel quite shallow to think like this

 

well.....

there's a couple judgements for you , and thats just the first page.

i never made a collective judgement of the group in its entirety. i think my post was pretty clearly directed to the folks who were posting juvenile rubbish and passing judgement like blood clots. and in my opinion, prejudice does not qualify as a characteristic i would attach to the title "good catch"

then this rant isn't directed towards you. you have shown the good sense not to attack a person based simply on their looks.

judging a person on anything other than the merits of their character is wrong. prejudice should never be tolerated, assumptions should never be taken for truths.

i am not defending anyones right to be fat. i am defending their right to not be ridiculed and judged because of it. call me crazy, but i believe in complete intrinsic equality. i agree that if a person is unhealthy they should do all they can to change that, but if they are happy, who cares? hell, you can be disgusted by fat people, but i don't think it's KIND to insult and categorize people because of your own biases and hang ups.

 

Actually you did when you posted this:

Now perhaps you weren't trying to make a collective judgment, but your post was not clearly directed to certain people only and that's why Jimmy P reacted strongly to your post.

:agree:

 

I am curvy, I dont consider myself fat at all but I am prob like 20-30 pounds bigger then my friends.

I woukld date someone who was chubby, but prob not someone who is obese (400lbs+)

 

yeah as people said, not to judge anyone, but i'm into what i'm into, and that ain't fatties.

 

It really depends on how you define 'fat'.

Girl with a big ass and a little tummy is definitely a turn-on. But seriously overweight (the way that you have a double chin and fat arms aswell) - hell no.

 

Eloquently put, my friend.

Slightly over "average" (and what is "average" anyway?) is fine, although not my first choice. Personality though is the key.

But then again, really obese women just worry me - unless they have a medical condition like hypothyroidism (and then why aren't they taking their thyroxine?) I'd suspect some psychological issues with self-image, needy personality etc. and i really can't be doing with that. I'm not the kind of guy that props up personality problems, sort them out or stop whining about them.

 

I have been rejected by both thin and fat men. When it comes dating a fat man, I would date him if our personalties were combatible with each other. I'm tired of all the emphasis on a person's weight. If a person is fat then they are outcasts and should not be dating. Its unfair. I think dating should be based more on whether the two people are combatible with each other, not whether they look good.

 

I married a woman who is heavy. We divorced but not because of her weight. People are hard wired to pick a healthy looking mate for the purpose of procreation. We can't be blamed for choosing a certain ratio of bust to waist to hips. And women look for signs a man will be a good provider. Psychologists go as far as saying a woman might pick one man as a provider and another to get her pregnant, depending totally on her subconscious evaluation of their genes.

 

I think some people seriously need to reconsider what they are after, because a hot body will fade and you are left with... a person? :huh: Also, not all overweight people are that way because they sit in front of the tv munching on chips all day long!

I mean, i understand that people have preferances, we all do, but this thread suggests to me that large people are somehow in a different catorgory to everyone else, and to be honest, if i were big i would be very upset.

 

I guess I'm not really surprised by the responses I have heard here, typical in my opinion. Mostly I'm fascinated by the ideas that a lot of people have about people who are overweight. I suppose sometimes it is difficult to get over generalizations, especially when we are fed these lies by the media and everything around us.

I'm overweight by most people's standards, shit, by my standards. That being said, I'm the most healthy person I know. I haven't eaten fast food in over 10 years I actually boycott the entire fast food industry and I refuse to even purchase a water or a salad from a fast food chain. I don't drink soda and very rarely do I drink juice. I don't eat "junk" food, there are no chips or cookies or ice cream in my home- EVER. I'm a vegetarian and eat mostly fruits and veggies with some tofu and soy protien products mixed in, when I eat pasta (which is rare, because I just don't really like it) I only eat whole wheat and I read the ingredients on everything I buy to eat. I don't eat eggs or dairy either (though I do not consider myself vegan). I also run 5k a day, or work an hour on the elliptical trainer, PLUS go to kickboxing for an hour and lift weights 4xs a week. I'm actually a certified personal trainer and work part-time as a trainer for the YMCA. But I'm not a body builder and I'm not stick thin, never will be, never have any desire to be. I love being strong. I love playing volleyball every Saturday in a pretty competitive league and being able to knock people down with my powerful serve! I love the fact that I can lift more than some men at my gym (especially leg work). My clients love me for who I am.

When I'm bored I take my German Shepard for a walk. Actually, most of you will notice that I haven't even been on here in a really long time. I just don't like sitting in front of the computer doing nothing. I also mountain bike with my boyfriend in the summer just for fun. And OMG I love dancing, and do it whenever possible, for no reason.

I have friends who are thin on the other hand who eat fast food and junk food (vending machine crap) every day, have diabetes, thyroid problems, high blood pressure. They couldn't do a push up if their life depended on it (actually, how many of you can do one?) I don't get it. I don't have any of these things and I am tested every year.

I don't know. I've been overweight my entire life, I have never been thin and I honestly don't think I'm supposed to be. I've been on diets since I was 5 years old, and the sad thing is that fucked me up more than anything, both mentally and physically (because diets are crap). But that doesn't mean that I don't lead a healthy lifestyle. I don't understand why everyone thinks that overweight people are just lazy slobs who stuff themselves with food. Maybe some people do, but everyone that I know who is a lazy slob who stuffs themselves with food super skinny (talkin' size 0-2 here).

Sorry, I guess none of this has to do with the topic at hand. I'm not upset or mad, I just wanted to point something out is all. I really don't expect to change anyone's mind, I know that isn't done easily, but I'm just being me.

 

Ha! This is completely off topic now, but I think you hit the nail on the head. My boyfriend is a great provider, he bought me a house for crying out loud, but I don't have any desire to have a kid with him or get married to him (don't worry, y'all he knows this and he is well aware of our "situation"). He's got a good job and is smart, but he's not "the one" everyone keeps talking about. I'm not his "one" either I know, but none of it has to do with looks it has 100% to do with our personalities.

 

Yes. I have and perhaps would again. It depends on personality, chemistry and such. Those are they same things I look at with skinny people, too. If we click and such, weight doesn't matter.

 

if a person is chubby or simply not skinny I don't have anyproblem with that be being fat is not being overweight its a lot worse even behind the problem of attrection being fat implies on your way of life(which doesn't go well with mine I like a lot of sports and going out)

 

I'm pretty overweight, maybe six foot, 250 lbs? something like that. got some man boob action going on. i do a good amount of drugs. i'm a smoker. i'm totally lazy. actually, i eat fairly healthy, i'm just *totally* lazy. i'm not wild about my body shape, but i do love eating and then not working off the calories, so i guess it's worth it.

i read most of the posts on this thread so far, and it sounds like it's not so much chubby people that turn people off, but people that make bad choices about their health and stuff. well, i think there's nothing cooler than a total disregard for one's health. i mean, seriously, being fat and lazy and smoking and drinking and drugging is a PROTEST against how society tells us we should act and live. why should i live by someone elses standards?

so, yes, i'd date a fat girl, i think it's sexy anyway.

although, when it comes to extreme obesity, like, when you have to go to a special shop to buy your clothes and whatnot, i don't think really think i could be with them. i dunno man, something about it just doesn't seem right. it's totally cool to be fat, but you have to TRY to get THAT enormous, like seriously try. If you're hobby is just getting fat for the fuck of it, then that totally goes against my entire fatness mantra. your fatness is a symbol of your i-could-give-a-fuck lifestyle, it's not something that TRY to get, because then you're trying in the first place! and effort is evil.

 

If you really have chemistry with someone, looks don't matter all that much. I mean, it's not something you really should *think* about too much you know? Its a feeling, and you either feel it or you don't. Blah but I'm probably oversimplifying as usual...

Bottom line, I do date someone who might probably be considered overweight but I still think they are the sexiest person on the entire planet

 

My thing is, I'm 5'8" 250lbs. but I hike all the time, work out and ride my bike every day, as well as plan football at least 3 times a week. I just get seen as a slob that doesn't do anything but stuff his face on the couch(my lovely mother). People need to understand that just cuz your big doesn't mean your lazy.

 

Pushit is right. The fittest kid in my class in year 7 was also the fattest kid. I'm 5'4, and a handful of kilos away from being anorexic (NOT by choice), and i'm WAY unfit XD
To answer the question, no i wouldn't date a fat person. I don't find it attractive at all. You're body is what keeps you connected to this world. Respect it, and take care of it.