Hope someone can help me me understand what I am going through. I am 34 yrs. old and have been broke up with my girlfriend for a little over 2 months and the misery is still with me. I am having trouble seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. There is no way for reconcilliation. I lost everything I know of for the past year. I am 34 and she is 51. I feel so rejected and have no self confidence and I know I would not be any good for another woman considering the stae I am in. I went from living on a beautiful 5 acre horse farm to living with my parents long enough to save some money and get back out on my own. Hope ther is someone out there that knows what I am going through
Hiya Joetide22, Look man, things will get better, instinctively you know this. I went through very similar circumstances and i tell you that time will heal. We both know that that is not what you want to hear, but it is the truth. I'll tell you my tale... I am a 37 year old man, and about 34 when i had to move in with my parents. I met a woman about 8 years ago, there was a tangible attraction between us, but she was living with another man. None-the-less we could not fight off the attraction, we would meet in secret, but i didn't get the commitment from her that i needed so i moved on. I met someone else, she was nearing 40, desperate for a child with her biological clock ticking, i moved away to a different town, and lived with this woman. I was happy for a while but deep down i knew i was in love with the woman i essentially ran away from. After three years i left my partner and moved in with my parents. Despite being a graduate, I packed boxes for a living, i lived with my parents for 18 months before being able to move into a rented flat by myself. Lonliness still gets to me at times but all feelings are transitory if you have a full life. The woman i left has now had a child with someone else so i'm not consumed with guilt for taking that opportunity away from her. Life can be tough sometimes but after you pick yourself up, get on with life, the days where you feel lonely will become less frequent and with a more positive attitude, who knows what you will find yourself doing and who you will be meeting, there is a future but you have to make the effort, i know it's tough but things will look brighter. I've read your profile and i see that you are a Christian, does this not help you? I personally don't believe in the Christian interpretation of reality just as i don't believe in Father Christmas but you have faith, maybe you'll meet someone at church. You should have faith in a future just as you have faith in your God. Feel free to contact me if you want mate. Take care.
