This is going to seem, to some, like the most ridiculous question on earth, but I have to ask because I honestly can't figure it out myself. I'm a very shy, self-conscious person, always have been. I've recently started to come out of my shell so to speak. I would really like to reconnect with someone from my past, just as friends and talk to them online. I have found them via Myspace (I know I'm so lame) but my question is I'm not sure how I should re-introduce myself and try to befriend them. I knew them for a while, so I'm sure they will remember me, the problem is that we never spoke to begin with. We weren't friends, just co-workers. This was over 10 years ago. But I think he is a pretty interesting person and I'd like to just chat him up a bit. I feel really weird just contacting him out of the blue and I have no idea what on earth I would say since when I was around him every day at work 10 years ago, I never said a word to him. can you help a shy person out? I don't want him to think I'm still a weirdo. I mean how on earth do I explain that I thought of him and looked him up on the internet? I wish I could just casually run into him or something, but that is not a possibility. I was really strange back then, I don't know what he thought of me, but it couldn't have been good. I don't want him to get any strange ideas, just want to say hi and see what's up with him these days.
Instead of saying you thought of him and looked him up on the internet, you can say you were just randomly poking around MySpace and found him by pure coincidence. Hey, it can happen! Another alternative is you were wondering what happened to everyone you worked with ten years ago and wanted to know (out of idle curiosity) where they all are now. So you decided to look everyone up and he was the first (or second, third, take your pick) one you found. I used this on a former high school classmate who I had a crush on. Nothing happened between us since I was already engaged and I truly honestly was just curious to know what happened to the one who USED to be the girl of my dreams. But she did accept my invitation on Friendster and we have corresponded a few times. I don't expect to be romantically involved or even be really close friends with her, but it's nice to know that someone in my past who I really liked is doing well, you know? Especially since I've lost touch with nearly everyone I went to school with and I can't help but feel disconnected sometimes. Okay, now I'm rambling. Sorry, I shouldn't be talking about me. So back to you: I've given you two options, just pick the one you're more comfortable with. And I know what it's like to be shy. Just keep in mind that this is the internet. Comfort yourself with the fact that even if he did get any "strange ideas" about you, at least you don't have to deal with him face to face. Unless you actually do bump into him. Much luck.
you can search for users by their location or where they went to school or worked - say you did that and ran across him
