Hey, problem and hoping for answers about me

Hello!
I'm new to the forum. I feel I'd talk about my problem.

I'm 16, Im pretty Shy... this is a big problem for me. I dont talk to girls, and I lack confidence. Im not funny, and it seems like all the girls want a funny guy.
this makes me doubt I can ever get married.

I dont have many interests. Im a strong Christian, some interest in history/politics, and video games.

I also don't have any experience in dating, or asking girls out. well very little anyways. Im also scared to make a move.

I also dont wanna settle for less, I want a very sweet and beautiful girl.

I find myself worrying a lot about my future, and never meeting a girl. I'm shy in school, and bearly even have friends!!! Im hoping after HS it will get better, but I also worry beccause of my current shyness and lack of confidence, things cant get better in college or after school.... any input? would be greatly appreciated

 

after hs everything changes

i dunno tho ya got a few strikes against ya but from what ya said id say try church social functions (yea i know borrrrring)

really though meeting a nice girl isnt that hard u just gotta be patient and keep a possitive attitude
rejmember girls are looking for guys as much as guys are looking for girls if u see 1 lookin your way just smile and say hey..
dont try to put on any false frongt just be yoiurself some1 will respond to it

 

I wouldn't stress out. I agree with soaringeagle, a lot changes when you're out of highschool. I would worry about having fun right now, hanging out with fun and interesting people, and not get hung up on finding the right person for a girlfriend. You have a lifetime to find someone...and I honestly think that love seems to happen when you least expect it most of the time.

 

thats the problem. im not having much fun... cuz i dont have many friends or confidence... should i just hang with my unpopular friends?

 

sure why not unpopular freinds are real freinds
in hs i had 3 ftreids maybe 5..couple years after hs had hundreds or more few years latrr thousands
in hs every1 wants to be popultr but not be freinds fter hs every wants freinds wiyjout caring bout popularity

 

If your looking for a good christian girl, then i guarentee there is a girl for you out there. There are lots of "good" girls like that, especially in high school. If your looking for someone who actually stimulates your mind (sorry christians) then you might have to look elsewhere...

And i couldnt agree more about what that dude said above me....girls are human beings just like you. Yes, different in many respects, but they are looking for love just as much as you are. If you notice a girl that is giving off signals, just treat them like you would treat anybody. You dont want to go into a convo with the mentality of "i need to impress this girl so she will like me", you want to think "I just want to be this girl's friend" and let the relationship develop over time. I try to shape my personality as being "universally dope" meaning i try and treat everbody the same, regardless of age, sex, race, etc. Just be nice, include a few compliments here and there, and let them do the rest. I think this works for everyone. everyone likes compliments, and you cant go wrong if you be nice lol.

I think you are taking it a little too seriously though, telling yourself that you wont find a girl to marry? Its way too early to be talking like that man, theres people in their late 30s and 40s who are never married. Plus, in high school there is only a few hundred girls or so to choose from (atleast in my high school). As you go to college, that number grows exponentially. And im sure you are a unique individual (we ALL are), so you will begin to learn that love is not easy to find. And it takes a special someONE to truly capture everything you are looking for.

I wouldnt focus on trying to go up to girls and whip up a convo....that isnt a good way to attract woman. Either just interract with them like you would any other human being, or just go to whatever events interest you (concerts, church stuff, extracurricular activities at school, etc) and just treat the girls you like as if they were one of your guy friends...that way they see the real you from the begginning and theres no bs. The key is to find common traits...you need to find a girl that is into the same stuff as you are, so just go where your heart takes you and be nice to all the girls you interract with. But not TOO nice, you dont need to buy them all kinds of shit, just nice words. A simple "Your hair smells good" in a casual way will always put a smile on their face.

Nobodys perfect, so dont feel so bad dude. PATIENCE is a great virtue to have, and you are still very young. So keep that in mind...And most importantly (not only for relationship issues but life in general) THINK POSITIVELY.

 

yea dude your my age

like high school sucks i can admit it but i dono youll find someone for sure
because everybody needs somebody to love

but yea since im in high school i can relate so in my case just focus on making really good friends and eventually one of those friendships can turn into a love/dating relationship

 

Jesus H. Christ. Why are you worried about getting married. You have like 30 years to think about that. Whatever you do, don't just marry anyone because you are afraid of being alone. It is better to be alone than to be stuck with someone you don't want to be with.

WTF? kids wanting to get married.