Girlfriend says she won't be "physically attractive"

So I have been wnating dreads ever since I was like 16 or 17, I am now 20, and I just want to go through with it already. I am going to once my hair grows to about 10-12 inches, and I told my girlfriend this and she absolutely thinks they are unattractive, adn I find them hot as hell, she tells me that if I get them, that she won't be physically attracted to me...what should I do, I mean..its my damn hair, and a different "hair style" per say, shouldnt change her whole outlook on my attractiveness....

 

some girls will say that... some girls are superficial and not worth your time
you will learn this
are you just with her for her hair? her chest? her butt?
if her attraction to you is dependent on your hair shes not attracted to you but how you make her look when shes with you..

if she loses her attraction.... thats her fault not yours!!!

imagine it was something else... being burned.. losing a leg or arm in an accident..getting cancwer and losing all your hair...would she styay?
is she woirth anything if shed leave ya over dreads?

 

yeah...like, when I met her, I just cutt of the 9 inches of hair I had and it was short and the first night I met her she said I was gorgeous...it's kind of bogus and I took offense to what she was saying. I am with her because shes like, everything I look for mentally and physically, it's a good balance of both, and spiritually she is a little different than me, but that's okay, because we share somewhat same views, so I am attracted to her in every way, she says she is attracted to me physically and mentally, but to tell me that, just because I am changing my hair? after some of her friends have dreads and what not, is wack. I told her I'm not really into blondes, and part of her hair is highlighted blonde, so I told her, "that's like me saying if you go all blonde, I won't be physically attracted to you"...she told me I was overreacting...

 

I agree that what she's saying is ridiculous. But I also think that If you just go ahead and get dreadlocks then she'll learn to love them. Share the journey with her. Show her how awesome it is to watch your hair change and lock up. I mean, how could she not grow to love them?

 

ask her this... if she had a mastechtomy (sp?) if she lost a breast changing her physicaly ..oh hell screw that even if she just gainbed a few pounds ask her if shge gained 10 pounds changing her body and mayre making you slightly less physicaly attrracted would u have the right to request she doets request she change herself to please you? lets say you like twigs anorexicsa dangerousky thin and for the 1st time in her life she was happy being a tiny bit heavy would ya have the right to make her feel sick again?

if she cares shge wants you only to be happy if dreads mjake u happy she should want ya to dread

hell u let her make her choices of hair makeup what and when and whgere to shave and i bet ya never once said i wont be attracted to ya if you boobs sag or hair thins or ass grows or pimples piop up on her nose
relationships are about acceptence

 

no offense but she sounds a little immature.
get them anyway man, its your hair if she leaves you over it then she has alot
to learn about what relationships are really about

 

yeah..like, her and I went on this master cleanse diet so she could shed some water weight she didnt want, and I went on it with her so she wasnt like, doing it alone and what not, I wanted to cleanse my body and shit..so I was up for it...she wasnt even fat, or chunky, shes skinny, and im like, you're not fat!! she should grow to love them, because I want them bad..its a great way to feel free, empowered, and I love them....being bogus like that just isnt right, that's like me saying, "oh, you want to get your nose pierced? well...I find that unattractive, even if it makes you happy, that doesnt make me happy, and I'll find you less attractive....."

 

i wouldnt want to be with a girl who judged me by the way my hair looked, thats just my opinion. I think if this girl says she wont be attracted to you if you had dreads, then thats not someone you are going to be together with for very long, although i am only 18 and am not an expert in girls, its just what i think.

 

To me nothing is more beautiful then nature; and dreads are one of the most natural hair styles. Just look at mine, no combs, no wax or sectioning, they did it on their own ! I say do what you want to do and what makes you happy. If she doesn't accept that, find a dready girl friend !

It has also come to a point where I don't even look in the mirror anymore because it doesn't concern me with what my physical appearnce is to others. Be at peace with yourself and who you are.

 

i have that same zeppelin shirt.

 

If you have been wanting them for so long I say go for it and see what she's made of.


My husband does'nt like nose rings, he's very conservative about appearances and I'd been wanting one since I was in high school so when I was 33 I went and got my nose pierced on vacation with the kids and came back and he was all 'eeewww'....but he got used to it. You know, it's a good way to feel her out and see if she's a keeper

Follow your dreams brother!

 

ask her if shed feel more or less attractive to you if she grew them herself

 

My last girlfriend told me she would leave me if i got dreadlocks again. So....

I got them again and am now dating a girl who likes me for who i am, not what i look like =).

I'm not saying anything negative about this girl, just telling my own experiance.

 

It is general opinion that dreads are dirty and gross. You're girlfriend has everyright to express her detest in your choice of hairstyle, but she can't, however, control what she feels is attractive or unattractive in her mate. Physical attraction is something that comes naturally. You can't force yourself to be physically attracted to somebody if you're not already, and a hairstyle could make all the difference.

With that said, she has every right to leave you once you get dreads, but you should ask yourself if a hairstyle is really worth the death of a seemingly good (from what I've read) relationship.

 

I talked to her, I think she just kind of tried to cover her tracks by saying that she'd still be attracted to me, but less attracted...which is still bogus..I dont know..this is all wack..i told her about if she went blonde that I wouldnt be attracted to her, so she said she wouldnt go blonde..im like, dude, that's not it, you arent connecting what I am saying..you know? if it was something she wanted, Id let her do it...but no, she just says, i wont do it then..

 

At 20 years old, the world is your oyster. You need to LIVE and have everyday be the best, because your youth only comes once. If you are in a position to lock up your hair and it doesnt affect anything other than her, Id say go for it.

When people place a lot of emphasis on hair it kind of backfires the whole idea of dreads- that its doing what it wants to do without any interruption from humans. I would be way more worried about my bf or gf spending hours making their hair look a certain way with product, exp haircuts/color, etc.

When I got my dreads I had no idea how much my perception of myself would change. I like myself so much more now. My ability to be happy while leaving something alone, (my hair) has made me more secure in how I am with others. I am so much more me now. Its hard to explain. I should have never waited so long to do it, but I guess there was a reason for it.

Educate her, maybe she doesnt understand that locks are clean and wonderful little works of art in progress. And dont try to compare it to her blonde streak- color is not the same commitment as locks. its just not the same.

 

My old lady doesn't like dreadlocks, buddhism, or chess. But we've been together for 11 yrs now. It's all comes down to respect on both of your parts.

 

I have dreadlocks. well, they're a mess of loose hairs, semi-dreads and some flat mats of hair. if you sleep in the same bed with me and open your eyes during the night you just might jump out of bed at the sight of me with my wayward hair. sometimes i don't shave for 2-3 weeks out of lazyness, and once in a grey while, I'll get a big zit on my face or sth. my g/f never even hinted at my being less atractive and, to be fair, she's a really beautiful girl and I'd say I'm average looking, only 5 foot 6 and a bit poofy

that's my experience, and of course all people are different, so I wouldn't dream of expecting your g/f to act like mine, or like others that accept dreads or whatnot. But, if she's worried about your appearance (while talking about dreads, not you running around town with no pants and 3 week old underwear, sporting a full beard and goatee filled with remnants from your last dinner), then maybe she's lost sight (or never had it to begin with) of what's really important. Not the way you dress, not the way you wear your hair or your moustache, but YOU and more importantly, you and her...the two of you. the emotional bind, sharing each others joys and sorrows, growing together, and so many many other actually IMPORTANT things.

 

If she can't accept you for who you are, do you really want to be with her? Do what you want to do and be who you want to be. grow your locks, and if she doesn't like them, too bad. If she leaves you because of something petty like that, she is immature and superficial and probably not someone you want to be with anyway.