Question For The Girls

D.T.R. or D.T.R. conversation, do you all use this expression?

D.T.R. = Define the relationship. D.T.R. is "that one dreaded conversation" that, usually, a girl brings up to find out where their relationship is going.

 

Im not sure I comprehend, but I have had three glasses of wine.

 

No. Never.

 

D.t.r?

 

Damn and I thought I was cracking girl code. Do guys even know what D.T.R. or a D.T.R. conversation is?

 

non

 

nope. never heard of it.

 

down the road?

 

Hmmm, take one step back to take 2 steps foward I guess. D.T.R. = Define The Relationship.

 

i don't like to define things...especially relationships....

seems way too constraining to me....

 

Yeah. Define the relationship? Fuck that. That doesn't sound fun.

 

ew. definitions are so limiting. defining a relationship seems totally against the whole idea of a relationship.

 

i dont use that term, but i do clarify when i think of htem as my bf and when were monogamous. id rather make it clear, than have something go sideways because we werent clear on where the boundaries were

 

Yeah it's one of those "where's this relationship going" convos.

 

oh, wheres it going? yeah, done that, but only with the guy im with now. mostly because, well, we decided we wanted to get married sometime after wed been dating for a few months, and moved in together pretty early on too

 

nope since i dont have relationships.

 

EDIT: misread OP lol....i hate those "talks"

 

Me too. Anyways my question stems from a friend of mine telling me about it. She then said try calling a girl out on it and i did. I walked in on a friend of mine and his girlfriend and I said "What is this a D.T.R.?" i laughed my friend asked what that was and his girlfriend glared at me. I then tried it as an opener. I walked up to 2 girls sitting down at a coffee shop then asked an irrelevant question. Then I said, "I'm not interupting a lesbian D.T.R. am I?" They laughed and said no. That's why I ask, I thought it was universal girl code.

 

I had that with my husband the first time we met. I told him he was going to marry me and like it. and he did.

 

Nope.
A relationship should be let to have its own, natural course. Defining it is of no use, actually it's a good occasion for arguments.