So I've been dating the same guy for almost two years. We've been having sex for about a year and a half and it's good. It's a little mundane but it's good. The only thing is, I don't think that I turn him on, well at least not to the extent that I would like to. I've tried stripping for him once or twice. In each occasion I caught him looking around me to see something else, like the tv. Yeah, that makes a girl feel real sexy. Also, everytime I get heated in the bed room or even before, he laughes at me, or says something so...stupid...that just kills the mood. Then of coarse he doesn't realize that he's killed the mood and proceedes to do the dead. I've just gotta take it cuz I don't know how to break it to him that I just don't want it anymore. What can i do to turn my guy on more. I'm just out of ideas guys...I need major help. Thanks-SassySecret
talk to him about it... dont mention that u talked to us about it tho... it may make him feel uncomfortable. oh and btw, you shud try getting him horny without telling him anything.. if he still says something stupid to make ur appetite go out the window just tell him that he ruined it... i bet u next time he wont say a thing... he'll much rather have sex with u than his hand.
It is possible your guy is one of those who believes women are not meant to show interest in sex. If they do it means they are nymphomaniacs or sluts. He may not realize this but his actions demonstrate it. It has been a common view and if we don't think about it it is very easy to be influenced by this view. You don't mention it but how much focus is there on your sexual pleasure as often the focus is on the guy. Also many people still think women actually have orgasms virginally and if the guy is focused on himself he can think it is all about intercourse and if you don't come that way there is something wrong with you. Hope this helps. role
if hes more into tv then your naked body cover up and walk away make him seek u if he dont walk away many other guys would love ya to strip for em..heehee jokin a lil but pm me if u wanna talk i think hes just lil bit tsakin advantage of ya, wont appreciate u till u stop tryin
^^^I was just going to say something about turning off the F###ing TV. The TV should have no part in the romantical experience. Infact, if the TV is in the bedroom, move it somewhere else. TV's are a strange thing and they bring weird energy into the home. I'm guilty of losing myself in the boob tube if I'm somewhere that has it, but I haven't had one in my house for over 6 years. Other than that, I would just stop accomodating his immature antics. If he can't give you his full attention while his dicks inside you, fuck him. Give him a bit to come around, but if not, dittch him
Get rid of all distractions in the bedroom. If the T.V. is more important to him he can sleep in the living room with it. Candles or incense oil lamps, music and you in the bedroom. I assume he's near your age he should be know how to please you, if you haven't talked about it whats the hold up? Nothing wrong with asking him straight up "What turns you on?" The sexiest organ in the body is the brain. You had his attention at one time or you wouldn't be together now.
There was some really great advice in there guys. I'm gonna try them all this week, and see how things go. Expect a post from me next monday updating you all.
You and him may be on different wavelengths so to speak. The tv thing is WAY fucked up, I'm not trying to excuse that. Still, he might be the "submissive" type like me. Do you give him a lot of the "Take me now" kind of attitude? A lot of girls think getting naked and acting sexy gets a guy ready to get hard and nail them... But for some guys what really gets them off is a girl who just grabs them and gets things going. Try blindfolding him/getting on top more, and be aggressive. Even if it's not your natural way of working, try just taking what you want.
