old feelings coming back 4 a man who now belongs 2 my friend.

Ok Here Goes I've Known Angel Since I Was 5 When We Were Teens We Started The Beginnings Of A Relationship We Had Always Liked Each Other But Since Our Families Were Close We Never Did Anything We Kissed One Time Shortly After That One Kiss He Was Sent To Prison We Spoke On The Phone Wrote Letters Everything But 2 Yrs Later When I Was 17 I Met The Man I'm Now Married 2.after Serving A 8 Yr Sentence He Got Out Of Prison But I Avoided Him Because Of Our History.now Its Been 12 Yrs Since Our Lil Teen Love I Have 3 Kids And Hes With A Girl That Had A Child With His Relative Shes Also Known Him Since She Was 5.so Of Course Me And This Girl Have Known Each Other 4 Yrs And Have Become Good Friends. We Are All Close We Spend Holidays With Each Other A Week At Each Others Houses Because We Live In Different Cities But This Weekend We Drove Down 2 There House As I Was Sleeping Angel Would Come In A Caress My Face I'd Pretend To Sleep We Had Alot Of Tension Between Us I Know 4 Me A Lot Of Old Feelings Came Back Well At The End Of The Trip He Tried To Kiss ME,BUT I SAID NO .Now iIRegret Not Kissing Him And Its Driving Me Crazy Because I Love My Husband But I Still Feel For Him And We Can Still Talk Like When We Were Little Kids I Am Just So Confused Please Someone.

 

Hello. I'm new to this whole trying to help people on forums...

You say you have 3 kids. You should tell us about them, tell us about how much you love them. Think about your life right now. Think of the positive parts of your life. It was good of you to say no to kissing that man, that must mean you have a lot of love and respect for your husband. Is this true?
Perhaps when you think of this lover from your past those memories bring back other memories of those times. You were a kid/ teen with this man, full of passion , learning new things, full of life...
I think it would the be in the best intentions to move on. Yes, this can be difficult, but I really believe that you can do it. You've given birth to three kids!

 

Firstly, can you cool it on the all caps - makes it much harder to read.

Secondly, you're crossing over a loose rope bridge; tread lightly, step slowly.

It's completely normal to feel confused when an old flame comes into your life again, particularly in cases such as this where the relationship ended on kind terms.
Also, you can't control your feelings; but DO NOT let your feelings control you.

For a healthy and happy life one needs a good balance of emotion and reasoning, and you can never let one take too much control over the other.

Also, you have been in a steady relationship with your husband; it's normal for new things to seem exciting; and even though this is old, this is also new. (And that it is also old will make it all the more solid feeling.)

The key thing to remember is to balance your emotions and desires with reasoning and care. You love your husband and your children, and cheating can hardly ever come to a happy ending for all involved when there are so many involved. It is absolutely important to forget that regret (hell, I'd even say edit it out the post :tongue

The key things to do:
Wait. Observe. Think.

Your feelings may settle some; from romantic desires (perpetuated by memories from the past and your wanton libido) to a much more friendly endearment.

Or they may not. Only time will tell. Patience.