I am honestly the only man I know who doesn't care about sex. I mean, I just would rather not be in a relationship at this point in my life, and sex is usually the last thing on my mind. It just seems wierd to me.
Maybe you are into more intellectual pursuits when it comes to chicks, look for chicks in the library, check out what they are reading if it is something heavy maybe strike up a conversation with her, who knows maybe you will hit it off. pick up a copy of War and Peace and just watch her read it, intellgent chicks are way sexy. Who knows it might put you in the right mood, then jump her (if shes up for it). Just a thought. Peace
i know exactly what u mean. im not sure why i feel this way but i havnt felt any serious urges to go out and find another girl in almost a year. some people constantly bug me, especialy my dad when im around, and its fucking annoying because they just dont understaind that i realy dont want a gf at this point in my life. i guess i just dont have the time to spend with one aswell. perhaps when the right one comes along il make a move but untill them im pretty happy single.
talk to your doc to get checked for things like thyroid, hormone balance, etc which can affect libido also being on things like anti-depressants often affect libido negatively
mate id really never thought of saying this before but stop smoking so much dope! judging by your display pic its prob the problem just stop for a month or so and see if ur confidence around girls picks up!
It's not a confidence problem, I have absolutely no problem talking to/picking up women. I just don't feel like being in a relationship. And I have cut down on my potsmoking alot. I used to smoke almost all day, I would sure be stoned 100% of the day at least. Now, I just smoke once or twice at night, and 3 or 4 times a day on the weekends...
dude i dont really care bout sex either. its almost like a hassel and chore or some shit. lifes filled wit much more interesting things.
Lol as soon as a guy says he isnt fussed about sex you instantly think its medical related? Not everyone thinks its that big of a deal. I enjoy it, but its not something i consider a top priority. If the oppertunity arises ill take it, but i dont seek it tbh, it usually just happens. And if it doesnt im not bothered.
Sex is overrated!!!! There are other things in life you can do as well. and maybe you'll get back to sex later. The society thinks that sex is what EVERYONE does after lunch and after they get home, well guess what, THAT IS NOT THE CASE!!! Enjoy yourself, with or without sex.!!
Pot smoking can make you lethargic and uninterested in sex. Cutting down or stopping should help. It is not unusual for a guy of your age to be afraid of committing to a relationship. But just consider dating and making love to a female as practice for the ultimate relationship you will develop later in life. Practice makes perfect.
What ever it is the key is to be yourself, if your not into a relationship then bookodles for you just dont cut your intereactions with the oposite sex, because you may even find a girl that you want to make more than just a friend(something i need to start doing). because in the end you still have to live your life and feel good about yourself. The question i have to you; Are YOU bothered that you have no interest in a relationship, and do you define a relationship as feeling theneed to have sex with that person or just wanting to be with that person (Being with and having sex with are two different things, for those who dont know)?
Hey Twizz, I havn't ever had what I would consider a girlfriend (though some girls may have thought otherwise ;p ), and I havn't had sex in... well 3 years. I'm 30 and quite good looking, and its not uncommon to find out some one likes me and in bars and clubs I can find a girl if I want to. However, I have no problem not having a girlfriend. I'm more an isolationist. That is my preffered state, to be alone. Litterally. Not that I don't have friends and see them often. I do. My body also does not crave sex. I get the horn of course, though not alot. And masturbate. And I like the thought of some slutty minx as much as the next guy... and yes completely aware of my shallow self to go for looks first (well you gotta be attracted to someone first right?) and not see their intellectual side initially as important; as a previous poster suggested you might. But I do understand why you posted this thread. I think to my self, wouldn't the weekend be better by having some pair of boobs bounce up and down in my face haha then to wake up in the morning with a gorgeous girl in my arms (which for me is the most perfect part of all). Much better than going home alone no? Well, thing is, as I don't care about sex, I don't care about not having it. So it's fine by me. But then should it bother me that it doesn't bother me? This I think about some times... well, often. I would prefer the raging horn all the time because sex is great when you're going at it... but well, its a question mark above my head because I'm young and healthy but hey, no sex, no biggy. Also, I have smoked weed on and off for 6 years, and not since September 2007. No difference to me, my desires havn't gone up or down. Though I did once have a thyroid problem which on last check was stable, and that has been known to cause a lack in labido... Though one thing just thought of... I have been in love once in my life to the most gorgeous girl. We never got together for certain reasons, though she was as perfect as perfect can be. Now not that I dismiss every girl I meet because they're not her, I do however compare them. And they don't come close. I'm not judging unfairly, I've gotten over this girl, but what's the point in seeing someone when they're for me not on her level? Why would you want to commit to someone who for your own self is not as 'good' as someone before? If I was to meet someone who was as 'good' or 'better' (for the want of better words here you understand) I would then wish to be with them and have the sexual side of the relationship no question. Want it, need it, have it. So many friends stay with the first person they call a girl friend and generally end up bored. They don't see how different and amazing other girls are, and see how this can improve their life situation if they discovered choice. But then, like me they might end up... well, like me haha. Anyway, just some thoughts. Though the one main one is, it doesn't matter at all.
Hey..sex is not a big issue for me either. But I kinda like relationship. The problem is no man believe me when I tell them no need to worry about pleasing me. When I'm horny, I just pull my vibrator out and everything's done in 10 minutes or so. They prefer to do me for 1-2 hours and to be honest it's no longer fun and more like a workout. For me, sex is more like a relaxation than a workout. I cannot orgasm when I'm tired.
